Molly, this is so hard to read, and so very brave to put into words.
Ed Eubanks
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Hi Ed,

Thank you for your kind words and support. To answer your question about what my parents could have done, I think they honestly did what they thought was right, and I’m not sure any amount of support they did or didn’t offer would have changed my mind at the time. I was too traumatized and embarrassed to open up to them, especially because I was forced to tell them before I even processed it myself — I wasn’t ready to tell them. The whole situation felt like a violation in and of itself. I wished that my parents could have talked to me separately, maybe. And perhaps that my Mom didn’t ask so many intrusive questions about the act itself — I know she felt that she had to know, but I felt like the spotlight was on me and I just wanted it to go away. She pressed for gory details instead of asking how I felt. I would’ve rather had her knock on my door and not demand to come in — just say that they were here for me if I needed to talk about it any further. I know detachment can be hard for parents, especially with these kind of situations, but my original lack of space from them caused me to feel stifled, and I didn’t really reach out to them at all after that. I don’t know if that makes any sense, but the whole thing is just really difficult to handle — nobody prepares for something like this, especially parents. Honestly, my Mom and Dad were victims of this, too…and that hurts my heart to think about.

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