Thank you so much Wendy, for your kind words. I so appreciate the support, especially at a time like this. Things have taken a dark turn for me in the past few days, in terms of writing on public forums.

I’ve seen levelers on Medium as well. It’s just baffling to me that people can be so heartless when someone is putting themselves out there, like I did. Why would anyone have that kind of reaction after reading a love letter to my husband? Clearly he resents his wife, or women in general.

I haven’t been 100% kind in my responses these days…but it’s because I’m fed up, hurt, and angry. I would never intentionally try to hurt others or bring them down when they are doing their best to just be a human being. Respectfully disagreeing is completely different than bringing others down for the sake of superiority. Even on Medium, there are people who don’t even write stories, they just comment on people’s shit and disagree with them…it’s messed up. If you fuck with me enough though, I will bite back. A person can only take so much before they snap.

I did write a comment back to that man about how he took a positive piece and turned it into an opportunity to be hurtful. How saying anyone is “140 pounds” of anything is dehumanizing, and that I am a real person, with real feelings. That not everyone is entitled to have others agree with them, but that everyone is entitled to respect, until they prove themselves otherwise. I didn’t say harmful things back to him because I’m sure that’s what he wants. I didn’t go into the fact that the weight comment is extremely upsetting, for a number of reasons, (including the fact that I am in recovery from anorexia), because he would’ve just used that personal information as ammunition and evidence that I’m “mentally unstable.” People like that will never change. I hope he truly feels like an asshole now- perhaps he thought the author wouldn’t check the comment feed. If not, he’s just another ignorant sociopath on the Internet.

I need more love right now, and less judgy, sarcastic, insensitive bullshit. I’m sick of it.

P.S. I am failing to mention that 98% of responses to that particular article were nothing short of amazing, beautiful, and supportive. Though the 2% were very painful, the good stuff is what I need to focus on. ❤