The Staying Philosophy
Hace unos años me encontré con este fragmento de Isa García en algún lugar del internet. Se ha quedado conmigo desde entonces y resuena en mí todos los días.
To the girl who is ready to go
There is a television show I used to watch called Veronica Mars, about a high school girl who is also a private detective. In one episode, Veronica said something that has remained with me for years: “The hero is he one that stays.”
This particular quote became my life motto for most of my college life. Almost four years have passed since the show was cancelled I found myself questioning the worth I once placed in (what I’d like to call) the “staying philosophy”.
I’m starting to believe that it’s unhealthy to hold leaving against one another.
Because leaving does not always mean betrayal. Sometimes, we’re not even particularly afraid of losing people. What we’re really afraid of is having to learn to do life without them. We are creatures of habit and comfort. One day soon, that just might be our demise.
Because the world is changing, we are changing –all the time, forever and ever. And, sometimes, by holding on too tightly on what is familiar, we lose.
Loss can be ugly, beautiful, scary, or all of the above. But I have found that it is –more than anything — necessary.
So when people leave, let them. Because, most of the time, they have to.
Let them walk away and let them go places. Let them have adventures out in the wild without you. Let them travel the world and explore life beyond a horizon that you exist in. And know, deep down, that heroes aren’t qualified by their capacity to stay but by their decision to return.
All great people leave. And one day, a great person just might leave you.
But our lives are made of revolving doors, and for every person who leaves, a new person comes in. Not as a replacement, but as a completely new character in the ever-evolving story of your life.
One day, it will be your turn. You will leave homes, cities and countries to pursue grander ambitions. You will leave friends, lovers and possibilities for the chance to roam the world and make deeper connections. You will defy your fear of change, hold your head high and do what you once thought was unthinkable: Walk away. And it will be scary at first. But what I hope you’ll find in the end is that in leaving, you don’t just find love, adventure of freedom. More than anything, you find you.
When you leave, you begin to understand what you walked away from. You discover that walking out is not always equivalent to closing doors. Sometimes it means leaving them half-open for the journey back. Leaving is not a virtue possessed by the easily contented. It has always been the path of the brave.
Maybe the truth is that Veronica Mars was wrong all along.
Sometimes, it’s the coward who stays.
The girl whose life changed in the leaving