Because the mind is an important and sacred place. Keep it clean and clear. — Ryan Holiday
Can you confidently say that your mind is a calm one? Or do you tend to get caught up in your head?
Even if you don’t have a hyperactive monkey mind, you might be experiencing a constant undercurrent of restlessness in your head.
I used to feel that way too.
It felt as if there was always something to do or somewhere to be. Ironically, a lot of that came from the pressure I was putting on myself to be hustling 24/7. …
For the last few weeks, there’s been a quiet humming presence of loneliness beneath my everyday activities.
Earlier this year, when my relationship came to its end in the midst of the pandemic, I was luckily living with my family. I didn’t take it as badly as I thought I would.
Now, I’m a 13-hour flight away from the familiar comforts of home, living with two flatmates in the pandemic centre — London. I didn’t realise that I’d never been forced to listen so intently to the voices in my own head. I came back for college, thinking I’d be able to see at least some of my friends and enjoy living with people my age. But the truth is, I still feel lonely. …
The plant lineage is thought to have split from the animal lineage approximately 1.547 billion years ago.
So you might be wondering, what could we possibly have in common with them? After all, they don’t think, talk, move, or have to face the struggles of life, right?
Well, I’ve recently been studying plant development and biotechnology at university, and have come to realise that like most people, there's a lot more to plants than what you see from the outside. …
When people are asked in their job interviews what their weakness is, I’m willing to bet that one of the most common answers is ‘I tend to be a perfectionist’. Because perfectionism seems to be a characteristic that can be frame as a negative, but deep down, people think it's not that bad.
But really, a perfectionist is a truly, terrible thing to be.
It’s a source of deliberation, anxiety, and self-destruction.
Even if you wouldn’t say that you’re a perfectionist, this mindset can work subtly and manifest in other forms: If you’re shy, it might come from the mindset of not wanting to make a mistake in front of people, or wanting everyone to like you. If you tend to procrastinate, it might stem from having an idealistic vision of executing the task perfectly, that the potential for mistakes is what’s really putting you off. …
In 1979 a Harvard Business study asked MBA students the simple question: “Have you set clear, written goals for your future and made plans to accomplish them?” The results indicated that:
10 years after that first survey was conducted, researchers revisited the students to discover that:
I had a couple of friends over for dinner last night, and just as we were about to start eating, I mumbled something discreetly.
But I probably wasn’t that subtle because one of them asked me what I said. This got me thinking a lot about the ways we approach food in our modern-day society and what we can do about it.
Itadakimasu is something I’ve said three times a day, every single day of my life. In Japanese, it literally translates to ‘I am receiving’.
But in actuality, it represents more than that. The word itadakimasu is a sign of respect and gratitude to the earth for providing us with food. …
You’re probably familiar with making a to-do list each day or writing down your goals for the week. But I’m guessing what you don’t do is keep an accomplishment list.
It sounds cheesy at first. Praising yourself can feel indulgent and awkward. But has beating yourself up ever worked when it comes to getting things done? Telling yourself Ugh, I’m so lazy. This is why my life is such a mess. I’ll never get anything done. Why do I keep doing this?! — and so on.
Probably not. Even if it did, it comes as a price of feeling bad about yourself. That’s why an accomplishment list is much more potent than it first seems. …
How are you feeling right now?
(and don’t answer okay/alright/good/fine/decent/meh/idk/normal/any other generic response)
Because chances are, most of us hardly ever pay attention to how we really feel.
I recently discovered The Positive Lexicography Project, which is a collection of adjectives used in different languages to capture nuanced emotions that cannot be directly translated.
For example, the Croatian word ‘Fjaka’ specifically describes the ‘Relaxation of body and mind; sleepiness, drowsiness; the ‘sweetness of doing nothing’.’
How beautiful is that?
Or the greek word Charmolypi (χαρμολύπη) which expresses ‘Sweet or ‘joy-making’ sorrow; mourning joy; happiness and sadness intermingled’.
These words remind me of just how little we delve into our emotions on a regular basis. …
‘Life and business is like the changing seasons. You cannot change the seasons, but you can change yourself. Therein lies the opportunity to live an extraordinary life–the opportunity to change yourself.’ — Jim Rohn
I remember first hearing this quote in one of Jim Rohn’s Audiobooks whilst walking down the pavement to my lectures. I stopped on the spot and hit rewind so I could listen to it again, and the words that followed.
It became a concept that I referred to over and over again.
Whether you’re feeling stuck right now, or want to level up the quality of your life, understanding this profound analogy will help you overcome the struggles and relish the successes. The smartest thing you can do to live well is to understand the patterns that life throws at us. …
If there’s any inter-personal skill that I’ve gained throughout the last few months, it’s learning to say no.
As a perpetual people pleaser, this was something I’ve never been good at. I hate confrontation, I hate telling people off, and mostly, I want to avoid unnecessary conflict.
But coming back into London from Singapore amid the COVID-19 pandemic put me on the spot.
I’m pretty sure you’ve talked to or seen people who have a different take on the current situation than you. …