Don’t think the grass is greener…

Appearances are often deceptive.

You know that.

Still you draw conclusions based on what you know to be a façade.

“They are so lucky, they live a life of abundance”. I would just ask: “How do you know?”.

The miracle of life is that external events do not prejudge the experience of life. You can have millions in the bank and still feel poor — in the event “abundance” meant “wealth” to you. More, life experience is universal, and as such, carries an element of fairness within: we all have experienced (or will all experience, sooner or later) love, betrayal, confidence, doubt, success, failure, hope, discouragement, gain, loss, and so on. The main difference is the form it takes -i.e. the timing and nature of the trigger events - and most importantly one’s response to the latter. Losing $5 millions on the stock exchange for a billionaire might be very similar to losing $50k for an average saver, in terms of life experience, hence in terms of these persons’ reality.

Thinking the grass is greener is an illusion. It also sets the blame on yourself as well as imposes standards that might not be the things you truly desire. All your friends have a property of their own; you should have had yours by now. That’s how you start beating yourself up, focusing on what you are lacking. In reality, you are comparing apples and oranges. Maybe you haven’t bought a house because you chose to invest in the education of your children instead, and that was more important to you. Maybe you just did not make as much money as your peers, for you chose a more unconventional (and perhaps more fulfilling) career.

When you choose, you say “yes” to something and “no” to some other things.

Out of different choices come different outcomes, which cannot be readily compared; For if you can figure out what you would have gained by making a different choice, you don’t know what you would have missed.