Actually, my spouse and I love each other exactly as-is. We have been married for 5 years and have discovered that the key to happiness is acceptance that your partner is perfect as-is. After having experienced this, I would never accept anything less. To anyone that feels there is something “wrong” with them: I would encourage you to delve into self-acceptance along a path of your choice. Until that happens, the external world will simply mirror what you feel is “wrong” with you by sending disapproving partners.