Thinking you don’t have to change Boy, people really believe that their perfect person will love them exactly as-is. And that’s true, to an extent. Your ideal spouse shouldn’t want the core of you to change — your personality or your religious beliefs, for instance. BUT there are literally a million other things wrong with you. Wrong with us. We’re grumpy and mean and selfish and childish and passive aggressive and disrespectful to
Seven Lesser-Known Relationship Killers

Actually, my spouse and I love each other exactly as-is. We have been married for 5 years and have discovered that the key to happiness is acceptance that your partner is perfect as-is. After having experienced this, I would never accept anything less. To anyone that feels there is something “wrong” with them: I would encourage you to delve into self-acceptance along a path of your choice. Until that happens, the external world will simply mirror what you feel is “wrong” with you by sending disapproving partners.