Everyone starts gathering evidence from “OMG he didn’t even like your profile picture” level stuff to “he didn’t go to counseling, he has no heart.”
The Divorce Machine
Kitten Holiday

My take is different because I’ve seen this run both ways: men have their own version of this. I attribute a number of these wrongs though to the individuals themselves. They aren’t comfortable asking for a divorce because things are just dead and they feel guilty. This is classic divorce guilt.