Oh my gosh, thank you so much for such an extensive reply. I read the letter you wrote to your dad, the interview response, the post about being called N for the first time, and I plan to read more. I feel like I am doing the things that you recommend above (encourage, teach, defend, explain, etc)…..But I gotta tell you, now that I’ve read some of your other articles (as well as articles by other biracial women on medium), it freaks me out even more! I actually recently started a blog, and I would love if you would read some of my stuff to see how I’ve dealt with some of the issues our family has come against. I won’t post it here because I don’t want to sound spammish. If you are interested in checking it out, please let me know. If not, I understand. I also know that you are not the authority on the biracial-female experience. I’m sorry if I have put you in that position. I know so many multicultural families (black/white, white/black, asian/white, asian/black, arab/black) with biracial children, but I do not know any biracial adults, who can explain their journey to me. I feel like the adults that make up our multicultural friend group are just kind of figuring stuff out as we go. Anyhow, thanks again for your response (I also love the mixedfolks website). You are an amazing writer. Keep on touching people with your words!