10 Ways to Reconnect and Strengthen Your Relationship

Mounota Richi
4 min readMay 28, 2017

As you want your home to be properly maintained, the same thing with your relationships. There’s no such thing as perfect relationship because you’ll always experience communication faux paus, emotional meltdowns and worse looking back to old mistakes.

If this happens, you need to know how to reconnect and strengthen your relationship and keep it in good shape.

  1. Test the waters

This is the first thing that you should do when reconnecting with your loved one. Don’t say anything; instead give her a hug or any nice gesture.

2. Keep a positive communication

Couples should ensure a positive communication to sustain a healthy relationship. Both of them must instill a positive attitude to counteract negative interactions.

3. Build healthy boundaries

To strengthen a marriage, a couple should set a semi-permeable boundary. While allowing your family and friends to connect with you without interfering your own plans and desires to reconnect with your other half.

4. Cheer each other

Marriage experts suggest that couples should encourage each other to strengthen the relationship. Always give honest praise and develop a sense of humor.

5. Disconnect from busy work schedule

Obviously, the technology blurs the lines between work and home. It can negatively impact your happiness and trigger stress.

To keep the harmonious relationship going, the couples must disconnect the lines between home and work. As much as possible, after work the couple should focus their time and attention to their family.

6. Be creative in expressing your love

There’s nothing wrong being expressive in showing your love to your spouse or other half. You can create a code or use a word that only the two of you understand.

You can still reconnect with your spouse even if you’re not together. You can express your love by sending good morning text through SMS. That will surely set a happy mood and the best way to start the day.

7. Prioritize your relationship

Once the couple gets married and united as one, they should shift using the “I” or “me” to “we” or “us”. The couple should not think individually, instead they must think as a team.

Likewise, the couple must make decisions considering the feelings and needs of his or her partner. Couples should exert extra effort to level up and reinforce their oneness, at the same time protect and guard it.

Once you marry your partner, he or she should come first as he or she is the anchor of your relationship. Establishing your relationship makes it easier for you to manage complicated issues in your marriage later.

8. Integrate a daily check-in

Just like businesses are doing to keep their workers productive and happy, couples should also hold regular team meetings. This will keep the communication flow smoothly.

Start your regular check-in by appreciating each other’s strength and weakness. Add new information and ask your spouse if there’s something that bothers him or her about yourself.

9. Create couple’s rituals

Creating a ritual that may also serve as your bonding time can help to keep the relationship strong. You can spend at least 10 minutes to chat before sleeping, save a Saturday night for a date or have a morning coffee together.

Another way to consider is getting involved in interesting activities. This will help improve togetherness and intimacy.

10. Keep short accounts

Most passionate couples were riding together the emotional roller coaster of life. But, it should not be the case because keeping the past reside will cause resentment to build up that may lead to creating major conflicts.

Above anything else, if you notice that your relationship with your partner is on the rock, the first thing that you should do is to assess yourself. You should think about your shortcomings to your partner before pointing out the shortcomings of your partner.

According to marriage psychologist, to reconnect with your partner you must start with your attitude. Most of the time successful professionals were not successful in their relationships. As much as possible, couples should separate boss/worker relationship from lover/spouse.

This means that working couple should not bring home work-related issues as they can’t help promote togetherness. Before going to sleep, couples must spend at least 10 minutes and express something that will help to nurture the relationship.

Finding quality time with each other can be challenging especially if both partners are working and have children. But, if you want to build a strong relationship you should find innovative ways how you can spend quality time together.

If you’ll spend quality time with your spouse, make sure to minimize distractions. This means that you should turn off your gadgets so that you can focus with your partner. Don’t let work-related thoughts interfere your quality time.

Maintaining proper balance with your four quadrants is necessary to build strong relationship. It also helps to achieve satisfaction, fulfillment, achievement and enjoyment.

Keeping a great relationship can be difficult to some, but as long as you know what to do and determined to keep your relationship, everything will flow smoothly.

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