So I started making serious investments in like myself, like buying a $500 writing course and reading dozens of books. I also started writing consistently, and focused on learning and creating, not entertainment. I tried new things. I ignored the mean comments and kept writing.
“Why waste time proving over and over how great you are, when you could be getting better? Why hide deficiencies instead of overcoming them? Why look for friends or partners who will just shore up your self-esteem instead of ones who will also challenge you to grow? And why seek out the tried and true, instead of experiences that will stretch you?”
“What are you doing up at 3am? Get some more sleep”, “Go on, have that last piece of cake. Live a Little!” they’’ll exclaim, unknowing that by giving up so much that is part of a good life now, you’re building towards a greater one later. One that truly makes you feel alive. Not one that is reliant on experiences and pleasures to really feel like you’re living.
From now on, then, resolve to live as a grown-up who is making progress, and make whatever you think best a law that you never set aside. And whenever you encounter anything that is difficult or pleasurable, or highly or lowly regarded, remember that the contest is now: you are at the Olympic Games, you cannot wait any longer…
But here’s the thing: they’re actually worse than mere theft. It’s more like being swindled by a con man. You’re willingly giving up your time and attention — and for what? For the false promise of some momentary pleasure? It’s worse than you think. The notifications and distractions play a role in dual systems in our brains: