Falling in love with Meg Spencer
“There was a study by psychologist Arthur Aron (and others) that explores whether intimacy between two strangers can be accelerated by having them ask each other a specific series of personal questions. The 36 questions in the study are broken up into three sets, with each set intended to be more probing than the previous one.”
I recently interviewed my good friend Meg to obviously make her fall in love with me. Just kidding, but I interviewed Meg to hear her responses to some of these cringe worthy questions. The first question was pretty simple and basic, one that if you actually had the opportunity to take part in, you would. I asked Meg, “Given the choice of anyone in the world whom would you want as a dinner guest?” Meg kinda knew her answer right away and said “umm..probably Jared Leto because he’s so f****ing hot and I like his music. Soooo, yeah. After this question, the ice was kind of broken. As the questions went on they got more intense and personal. I looked at the next question and read it to Meg. “Take four minutes and tell your partner your life story in as much detail as possible.” Meg looked at me and said ‘Is that real’ I responded by saying ‘Yeah Meg it’s real, you don’t have to answer it.” The fact that these questions were getting so personal it made it harder to ask her but at the same time I was so curious to know what her responses were going to be. Meg started getting fun and genuine with her responses and she really started to get comfortable with the way she was answering them. She wasn’t afraid to say what she really thought or how she felt about a certain question. The last question I asked her was, “If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you were living now and why?” She kinda thought for a second and said “Um I’d probably like commit crime. I don’t know, I wanna do that before I die.” An answer I was not expecting whatsoever. After these questions I felt closer to Meg as a friend and could open up to her myself. I could see how these questions could make you fall in love with someone. Towards the end they got really personal that the person has to open up. You could find so many similar interests and habits through these questions to see if you are compatible with the other person. You get to know them on a whole different level and develop a different sort of comfort with them.