Really? When I masturbate, I make myself come. When someone else uses his/her hands, mouth, penis or some combination to make me come, that person DID make me come. Of course, it’s my orgasm, who would dispute that? But that other human did, in fact, make it happen on that occasion. They gave me pleasure– that’s a nice thing. When I use my hands and mouth to make a man ejaculate, I DID make him come. It’s not my orgasm, but I did the work. Why all the brittle, defensive hostility about sex? Why do today’s young women make sex into such a power and property issue? I’ve had a rich, robust sex life for over 40 years and have never ever experienced the things these young women gripe about all the time. Sex should be a beautiful fluid dance between two people, not a negotiation or a struggle. (OK in long relationships, esp with young kids, sometimes it’s gift you give your partner and not the beautiful dance :p). How about just be honest and kind and not bring enmity into your sexual encounters as the default position. You might find most men are more vulnerable (in a good way) than you think they are–or decided they’re not. And most adult men like giving pleasure as much as we do. That’s the gratification.
