You Don’t Hate Mondays, You Hate Not Being Yourself
Drake Caeneus

Letting the Uniform Give Way to the Unique

When we enter the educational system, we are trained to behave and act with in set boundaries. We grow and learn in an environment that is structured to teach us how to work (as defined in this article). For years, we build and strengthen abilities that allow us to function in a manner were the complexities of work become a routine that seems effortless and accomplished with ease. With all these years of training and programming we have underdeveloped the abilities that lead us to action. The amount of time and effort that we have given to becoming uniform exceeds that of the effort and time given to becoming ourselves, to the point when we are given the time and space to be ourselves, we default to uniformity. We don’t explore the places were our unique-selves exist because we lack the strength or the motivation to wander into those realms.

The stark contrast between the our weakness in the unique and our strength in the uniform scares us. We are so much better at being uniform that when we experience our weak unique-selves we run from the feelings of vulnerability, discomfort and unfamiliarity. This stems from developing the uniform while neglecting the unique. If we had given equal, or at least some what even, efforts to both we would have been able to develop both at a similar rate. This would have left us comfortable and desiring to spend time with the unique. But because the time of unavoidable vulnerability and discomfort have passed, so when we revisit these things we retreat into the safety and rest of the uniform. The uniform is a safe place that we find ourselves trapped in. This safe place is nice, at first, but boredom and numbness set in. The joy and fulfillment in life is found in the unique. Once we truly start to truly hunger for joy and fulfillment we tip the scales and embrace the vulnerability and discomfort of our unique-selves. Then we see for the first time a glimpse of who we really are and who we can become.

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