When you talk about a new masculinity and helping men, it feels much more like controlling men. You do not want to help, you want to shape them as you see fit.

even this term “masculinity” has become a catch-all complaints from feminists. What we lack are values, accountability, self reliance, honor. The problem is, those old school models were always few in numbers. being a douche is a strategy with many short term rewards, of course most guys (most people really) will be like that. Take the dick pics problem for example, guys do it because it works, to talk about masculinity without talking about femininity is just bullshit.

Also, not the first time I see a feminist saying how they like those old style males. January Jones, an actress from madmen, said the same, but she cannot accept diverging political views, so funny.

One last thing, without more details about your coach, we really can’t say he did not take care of his health. Life expectance calculations can show that even controlling for several factor, women live more, men die more because of many more factors besides bad health. Violence, accidents, suicide.