Mridula Boinpally
Sep 6, 2018 · 2 min read

Random Insights..

There are so many thoughts racing in my mind I am not able to create a proper sentence to express myself. So here I am going with the flow. I used to first wonder why my mom and dad hated each other so much that they used to curse each other's families so much and sometimes went to the extent of harming each other emotionally, physically and psychologically. To my surprise after a long quest for answers about relationships and marriage, I came across this shocking truth after my marriage that it is not about marriage, and it is certainly not about women empowerment as I was thinking that it is women empowerment issue and society issue but apparently it's not. It is just about how we resolve conflicts with another individual. It can your partner, friend or anyone for that matter of fact. Then I realized that my conflict resolution with others is quite like abandoning them for a while and coming back to them after I forget what happened and never think about it again. I was taking my mom’s side and sometimes I was taking my father's side but they are not wrong, they are just dealing with conflicts within themselves. They were dealing with self-image issues because the person they loved the most, they are hurting them when there is a conflict or not able to keep up with the energy of their partner. So they feel bad about themselves and it affects their performance as a whole in this world. That was what happened to my dad. He wanted my mom's approval for his values and beliefs whereas she came from a different background and belief system that they were not accepting each other. Both were looking for approval from each other and not giving in due to self-love, which you definitely need, to survive and give something back to the society.

Then I realized that the person which higher energy wins always. That energy can be coming from several different sources. It can be love from others, physical exercise, emotional well being or hate. And having a group of people supporting your cause will add more energy and there are more chances of winning. So here’s a question. Some say, be the change you want to see in people but then one person’s energy would not match a group of individuals. Infact the society has greater power over individuals. Having a healthy society is important in changing individuals life and a healthy society is made by healthy individuals together. It’s a viscious cycle of changing everyone. It also raises question about forcing someone to be someone else for the sake of betterment of the society which is again not fair.

what do we do?