People of the Lie
I said it.
Why would you lie about yourself to others? What kinds of lies would you tell?
Would you try to present yourself as something you are not?
Would you take on characteristics that are oppositional to those that you really possess? What would be a reason to lie about who you are? What you’ve done? Who you desire to be?
Lying to others about who you are indicates that you have a deep and fundamental discomfort about who you believe yourself to be. When you do it, you are telling the world that you do not like yourself and would rather be someone else. That you would rather create a fiction that has to be consciously maintained rather than live the effortless and unconscious truth of your existence. That you would rather take the hard rather than the easy path of self-expression.
If you are holding back the truth about what you’ve done and what kinds of personality characteristics you possess, first of all, there are people out there in the world, friends and family, who will know it straightaway. Who know what you’ve done and who you are when you are being fully and un-self-consciously yourself. And so you live, every day of your lies, in full recognition that somehow and somewhere, the truth will come out and you will be exposed as a liar.
So you’re living a fear-based life as well. Which is never, ever comfortable or easy.
Given this understanding, not volunteering information when it is not relevant is not necessarily a lie of omission. It is when a previously unshared truth becomes relevant and it is not shared, that it becomes such. So there is no need to walk about blurting out irrelevant truths about yourself to people or to impose your reality upon others if it is not called for or pertinent to current events in your life.
If you lie about yourself or embellish your experiences to impress others, you are again going out of your way to create a difficult fiction for no reason. Of the types of lies that people tell, it seems these are the most common. It should also be noted that some people lie much easier than others. Those on the psychopathy spectrum can do so and pass lie detector tests easily as their bodies do not register the physiological changes that empaths display unconsciously.
Some call them the People of the Lie, those inflicted with what some call evil by another, more psychologically scientific name, malignant narcissism.
If you are not one of this group of people, you know it.
If you are one of this group of people, you know it too.
There are people of both groups reading this right now, knowing which group they belong to. As that dipolar orientation is the disposition of oceanic humanity — with all scalar variations in between — perhaps one of the truest signs or clues as to human nature can be defined thusly. Those who lie easily and those who do not. Those who kill easily and those who cannot. Those who cheat easily and those who will not. Those who predate easily and those who should not.
If you lie, you know why you lie. Some of us have learned that we cannot lie and get away with it and so we do not even attempt it anymore. Some of us can tell little lies but they niggle at us until, eventually, we must tell the truth. Some of us figure out ingenious ways how not to lie exactly but also how not to tell the truth exactly either. Some of us tell the whole truth because we are bound to do so by something beyond ourselves.
The ability to lie says a lot about who you are, fundamentally, at essence and in your core self expression. If you lie to yourself as well about yourself and about the world you live in, then it becomes automatic for those lies to carry over into how you express yourself verbally with others and how you present yourself to the world.
The question then becomes, do you, really and truly, believe the lies you tell yourself about yourself?
What kinds of lies do you tell yourself? Do you know it when you do it?
For what purpose? And what does that say about who you are fundamentally, and at your core level of self-expression?