How to start owning your choices
An underlying problem exists in the ever attention seeking world that we live in and we have to act now.
We have lost the ability to make a decision that is our actual choice, without being influenced by someone else’s opinions.
What if I told you we are just slaves to another’s influences and being feeded with the opinion of others?
Yes I’m guilty too.
Each time I want to watch a movie, I can’t help myself but to look at the reviews and see what others think about it before deciding.
About all or most of our decision crtieria choices were made by the influence of others. Should you be concerned?
A research from Nature Neuroscience was done on 70 participants to determine whether our choices are affected by other people choices by studying risk or playing safe on their own or after watching other people’s choices in gambling options. They later found out that those who watched other people’s choices swayed more towards the ones who choose the option they picked out.
How would you feel about giving someone the power to say, this is the kind of information we should give to set someone mindset a certain way, and we abide by them?
Here’s one way you can easily break out of the cycle and start making your own decisions.
Start asking questions
Here’s what you should ask to determine if our choices are exactly yours.
What have I done today that I choose to do on my own choice?
Am I influenced or concerned about what others have to say about me if I dont make the same choice?
When was the last time you decided to go and watch a movie without looking at the reviews?
More importantly, when was it that we require the opinion of others to determine whether a show is to a liking. Why does it matter?
These are all questions linking to other matters like requiring the approval of others and lack in decision-making.
Another point to add on is this — Reviews are after all subjective to the person who experience them and we are individuald with unique and different tastes, so why would we let others be the judge of our tastes rather than experiencing it first hand?
Make better decisions
The next step would be to set apart and take action upon them. Make the intentional choice be about you because you want to and not because others choose them.
It has to start with you. You can carry on in a manner of your own or seize the opportunity to take charge of your life.
Nothing, and also nobody can stop you but you. Nobody can tell you what you are and what you are not.
Take lesser time on thinking about what people think about you and waiting for their approval.
If you are interested to learn more about living a much better meaningful life and making your own choices, here are some other good content worth getting into.
Mission Daily Podcast (currently listening to) — listen to episode 1st principle about direct experience.
How to Let Go of the Need for Approval to Start Thriving — Tiny Buddha by Sacha Crouch
Own your choices.
