WHY DO WOMEN MARRY MEN WITH POTENTIAL?

Did you marry a man with potential?

On the surface, marrying someone for their potential may not sound like a bad thing. Webster’s defines potential as “existing in possibility: capable of development into actuality <potential benefits>. Based on that definition, the possibilities are endless! You could marry a man with
the potential to be a good provider,
the potential to be a good husband,
the potential to be a good father,
to own his own business, and on and on.
All reasonable expectations for the man you plan to spend the rest of your life with.

In the 14 years that I have been married, my husband and I have mentored a lot of married couples. There seems to be a recurring theme: women who saw potential in their husband’s while they were dating, but the potential never showed up once they got married! Then, after several years of waiting for that “potential” to show up, the wives are exhausted, frustrated, and angry, and ready to exit the marriage by any means necessary!

The problem with marrying potential, is that the one party (usually the wife) has expectations, many times unrealistic, of the other party (usually the husband). We pin all of our hopes and dreams on…