<< They have been shown again and again, that if they pursue a woman hard enough, stalk her long enough, just keep asking, and asking, and asking, they will eventually wear her down, she will reach enlightenment, and of course, dispense her charms.>>
Yes, and tied directly to this is their self-evaluation as “good guys” who would be excellent boyfriends — just as they are!! — if it weren’t for the inexplicable, culpable bad taste women show in failing to fall for them. EVERY rude, ill-smelling, badly dressed, self-absorbed asshole thinks he’s an excellent mate solely based on 1) his desire to have a girlfriend, which he thinks means regular sex and free emotional labor and 2) all those movies about self-absorbed losers who by virtue of being the story’s protagonist must DESERVE some poor female’s adoration and exclusive service. They don’t need to earn it by being worthwhile to US; only by putting in sufficient energy trying to MAKE us change our minds, as you said, wearing down our resistance, exhausting or terrorizing us, effectively mistaking Stockholm Syndrome for love. So, as you say, we’ll “give IT up”… meaning, effectively, give up our selves, our sense of our separate existence and the meaningful nature of our consent.