My father, now and forevermore deceased, was an internationally known dog trainer (Dick Russell, the Dog Man, google the movie). He was able, with damned near 100% success, to transform the behavior of any dog.
Maybe, what we need to transform our negative behaviors is a Man Man, or maybe a Woman Man , or Man Woman, or Woman Woman. (I should have thought more about the combinitorics before beginning that sentence.) Just a few quick tugs on the leash and we’ll be magically transformed.