The Other Side Of #MeToo

Workplace harassment, sexual abuse, and discrimination of women has been all over the place and heavily debated about.

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However, what we tend to forget that there are always at least two sides to a problem. And, that, by making it a one-sided story, we always miss the shots to get a 100% solution (or really close to it).

This one goes out to my dear, fellow, awesome men, who are doing their best in this world, but need to live with certain stereotypes that are very tough to challenge and often found in disbelief.

To the man whose wife has been mentally abusing him (because she simply doesn’t know better) for years and him tolerating it. Rough fact, but women mostly hit with words and men hit with hands — both is equally painful.

To the man who’s desperately trying to find a new sales person only to encounter that those who’d be a fit (if it is by chance a woman) only wanted the role to be with him sexually.

To the divorced man who is dying to spend more time with his kid only to be found in court having to spend his time arguing false accusations from his ex-wife.

Now, you and I know that I’m not generalizing here. But, more so, is this my attempt to raise my hand and point out the issue on both sides. We need to create an even approach for a solution on both sides.

Against mental abuse.

Against domestic abuse.

Against workplace harassment.

Against sexual abuse.

From and of both sexes.

Otherwise, the situation will always be out of hands.

Hollywood actor Terry Crews has shared his experience with sexual abuse very bravely in recent years and has taken a lead role for men in this regards. You can read more about some of his efforts here or watch his very candid interview with Trevor Noah:

Just like what most women wish to receive in those situations: an ear that listens and a non-judgmental soul who just wants to understand.

Can we provide the same for men?

Can we provide a safe space for men to voice their concerns and stories?

Instead of a ‘man up’ and ‘stop crying’, can we give young boys the space to share their emotions?

Because often, we women (men, feel free to correct me), are the ones it is easier to talk with about emotional stuff. So, we have a responsibility here, too.

Let’s all work together to empower each other and push ourselves higher — no matter the gender.

Because true conversation and progress can only happen if we argue for the sake of understanding, not for the sake of being right.

Pamela Wagner is the CEO of Ajala Digital, a boutique-marketing agency, and a Forbes 30 Under 30 Honoree. She has formerly worked at Google and travelled to 75+ countries at the age of 26. You can reach out to her directly on Clarity.