These are really great, Jen! I have a suggested addition/amendment to #3. In the “write a letter to the people who hurt you” bullet, I stumbled across an excellent exercise in which, rather than destroying your letter, you then write the response you wish that person would send you. Like, address it to yourself as if you are the other person.

It can be as completely outrageous as you want it to be, just go wild. Whatever you wish they’d say to you, write it down. Then read it and reread it, over and over. Interestingly enough, your brain actually starts to process it like the other person has written those words to you, and you start to feel warmly toward them. It’s such a good tool for letting go of resentment and forgiving people who likely will never apologize, or to whom it would be inappropriate to express angry feelings. I’ve done it a few times, and I was shocked by how fast and completely it worked. Brains are incredible! They can know they’re tricking themselves and still be tricked! I wish I could comprehend that, but I can’t! Anyway, it’s totally a cool thing worth trying!