This response should be after your last post where you ask for insight on wording, but I wanted to highlight rather than rewrite.
It sounds like you’re sincerely asking for a way to make your point without coming off as judgmental, and I think the answer is more simple than you realize.
Amplifying your writing clarifies your meaning. Making a bridge between your perspectives and your feelings adds clarity. Explain, for example, why a harness makes you feel awful, beyond the image it evokes.
Making the connection between the two sentences/thoughts would make the second sentence read like a reflection rather than an accusation. As someone who has ‘been there’, I hope this helps.