I find this so rarely mentioned or even recognized.
Melinda Csapó

Thanks for your kind words, and I completely agree! It’s not meant necessarily to castigate those folks through and through— it’s understandable to dance around the things you fear or are uncomfortable with, and lord knows I do it enough myself. But just as religion may be a tool for those who wish to oppress, to oppress, so may poly be used by abusers to abuse. And so it’s our responsibility as those who are trying to popularize polyamory to lampshade that potential and encourage people to separate the ideology from the behavior of some of its less savory practitioners.