Saying “f@#k it” is a Key to Happiness

Life comes with all sorts of trials designed to build or break us. I guess this is how we know we are alive and feeling. Getting chin-checked by life is something I was getting a bit too accustomed to, so I made a decision to just say “f**k it”. Since it would be presumptuous to speak for anyone else, I will just speak for myself here. This is not me giving advice, this is me taking my own advice. It’s about time I started doing that on a consistent basis anyway.

I wondered what life would be like if I didn’t care so much about all the things and people I cared about. Why have I put so much energy into things and people? Why should I care what others think of me, and if they even think of me at all?

Why do we give a damn what others think about how we look? We see ourselves naked and without makeup or adornments daily and we are good with it. So what makes us want to do so much to alter our appearance if it’s not to make someone else feel some type a way? Yes we “dress up” for us, but let’s be real, many dress up to impress others — some even do it to seek approval. Are we not good enough?

We spend countless hours worrying about others and their well-being, when oftentimes the ones we care about the most don’t even remember we exist. Some don’t even like us but we are too blind to see through our rose-colored lenses. Why do we do that to ourselves? Am I saying we shouldn’t care about others? I am not saying that at all. I am saying that we need balance in all things. Reciprocity isn’t a bad idea either. We’ve got to learn when to say “f##k it” — and mean it.

We worry constantly about things that might happen, things that have already happened, and things we can do nothing about if they were to happen. Again, why do we do this to ourselves?

Throwing your hands in the air and waving a white flag does not a coward make. It makes you stress-free, care-free, and free from toxicity. It makes you wiser than most because you have surrendered. You’ve accepted things as they are, changed what you could, and said “f&&k it” to the rest. There will always be trials in our lives, but I have [finally] learned to do what I can and not beat myself up about the things I am unable to control. (It took forever for me to get here).

So my advice to me? I must remember that surrendering and saying “f^^k it” is somewhat the same thing. This is not up for debate — this is my advice to me. I have spent way too much time staying still, and too much energy feeling sad, when all I needed to remember was who I am. Who am I? I will tell you who I am. I am irreplaceable, a masterpiece, a determined, loving, go-getter who succeeds when focused. I intend to be all that I am and will not settle for less than I deserve. Obstacles in my way are about to get run the hell over because my time is now and I am taking what’s mine! Period!

It’s almost my season, Taurus season, so taking the bull by the horns seems somewhat appropriate at this time. To the things I cannot change I say, “f**k it” and move on.



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