It’s The Life I’ve Been Dealt
Jason Flamm

Resilience is one word to describe how you’ve endured, that’s certainly true. I admire you for sharing your story. I know it took a lot of courage for you to put it out there. So many people ask you how you ended up so normal, and you’ve listed all the negative vices you’ve avoided. Normal is a relative term. I don’t believe any of us who suffer a devastating childhood trauma grows up without inner scars and wounds. It’s how we deal with those wounds as an adult that determines how well we will function in the world. Many people do turn to drugs as you mentioned, but just as many victims of trauma cope and compensate by overachieving in everything they do. They excel in work and often burn out in mid life. I’m glad you are doing so well and you may be the exception and perhaps you don’t need any help at all. I hope you are unaffected by this childhood trauma and your life continues on the positive path it’s on now. Mine did until my late 30's and then I cratered. Fortunately, I sought help and have worked through the demons, inner scars, and wounds I kept hidden from my family and the world for such a long time.

I’m so sorry for what you had to go through. That sort of tragedy will always be with you and it’s only my opinion, but unless you talk to someone or seek professional counseling you may feel like you’ve come through the ordeal relatively unscathed and “normal,” until one day your world comes crashing down around you and you can’t figure out why. I wish you the very best and again I commend your bravery for sharing your story.

Melissa @

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