At least that’s what I tell people who ask me if it was worth dating this guy or that. Many of us at some point have dated men who have been open about their exploits, moments of weaknesses and their tendency to be in multiple relationships at the same time. The trouble begins when they tell you this only after the said relationship reaches a dead end or even worse — when you find out about it.
Not in the case of polyamorous partners. They set expectations right at the beginning. They are pretty vocal about their feelings for you, and others’. Coax them a little and they might even tell you about the number of women they have fucked. They will also tell you what they like about you and why you might have been the “chosen one.” Yes, they might also teach you a thing or two about sex.
It’s all okay till — you begin to like them.
Then it starts to get worse. It’s like blitzkrieg bop. Everything starts to shut down and you revisit the moment when it all started. You start punching yourself for how it all started.
You might not even be sure whether you can call it a relationship. You might think that it’s a fling, an affair, or an infatuation that is soon going to die a terrible death.
2.You will always be thinking about them saying the same things to someone else. Well, that might even be true in the case of a monogamous relationship. But in this case, it’s bound to get worse because you’re not really sure about the number of women that your “partner” might be involved with.
- You will always be scared of “it” ending too soon. You will always be worried about whether today’s the day that the said relationship (fling or affair, call it whatever you want) is likely to culminate. Knowing the nature of your partner, he/she will be eager to divulge the reason for why it’s going to end. They might even feel proud of it which is likely to make you feel even worse.
Well, no matter how tempting you might find polygamy, the truth is you will always end up getting hurt and feeling lousy. Therefore, the sooner you get up on your feet, the better.
Like I said, think of it as just-another-experience if you can…
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