Being Interested more than Being Interesting!

It is a BIG question whether a person should be interesting or interested?

Well,for me a person should be interested and why is it so? Let us take an example of a candidate who’s appearing in an interview. During the interview,the employer asks him/her the question that whether you’d like to be interested or interesting? At this time,what should a smart candidate answer?

Yes,he/she should tell the employer that he’d prefer to be interested over interesting.To understand this we must be clear about the difference between being interested and interesting.

Being interesting means that you have some skills,you are capable to do and perform particular task efficiently and effectively.It does not always mean you are interested in that particular thing as well.Being interested means you are passionate about something,you are really keen about knowing and discovering further details about particular thing.You can develop particular skills or you can be interesting for that thing due to your passion and interest about that thing.

So,it would be the correct answer to that tricky question that you should be interested in something more than being interesting as you can be interesting if you are interested but it is not necessary that you’ll be interested after being interesting.

Famous author and writer Dale Carnegie writes in this book “How to Win Friends & Influence People” :

“If you want others to like you, if you want to develop real friendships, if you want to help others at the same time as you help yourself, keep this principle in mind: Become genuinely interested in other people”

So,yes this is one of the principles to be happy and live a life which is full of love and affection.

At,some other point he said:

“You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you”

In his book Dale Carnegie wrote about another famous author who said:

“If the author doesn’t like people. People won’t like his or her stories”

If that is true of writing fiction, you can be sure it is true of dealing with people face-to-face.

Also in his book,he included a story of a remarkable magician.When he asked him the secret of his success he said:

“I love my audience.”

Moreover, Dale Carnegie used to remember other people’s birthdays and used to wish them through letters and telegram and he was great at making real, and loyal friends.

When I applied his principle in my life the response of other people was overwhelming.They used to share their stories and used to spare their time for me to talk to ,to tell or listen stories.It really can brighten up someone’s day.It wins real friends and create your positive impression on others.

All you need to do is to be true and sincere to others and along with this you need to ask right questions at right times.

Esther Pauline “Eppie” Lederer née Friedman (July 4, 1918 — June 22, 2002), better known by the pen name Ann Landers, was an American advice columnist and eventually a nationwide media celebrity.She also said:

We should show interest in others and should try to be better listeners as some one said, “God have granted us two ears and one mouth so that we should listen more and speak less”.