Inspired by lyrics: Seigfried
“I’ve been living in an idea; an idea from another man’s mind.”

An idea where good things come to those who wait; an idea where the ones you love most need you as much as you need them; an idea where you can find a silver lining for every situation.
As it turns out, though, that idea is bullshit.
Good things don’t come at all — they’re earned by those who go get them. You may catch a break here or there, but if you make a habit out of waiting, you won’t have much to show for it down the road. In fact, if you sit back and wait too long, you’ll miss out on opportunities and moments that you can never get back. Before long, you‘ll just be left waiting with your thoughts, wondering what you could’ve done differently. I mean, you could’ve told that girl how you felt about her when it counted… or you could’ve asked that one ‘stupid’ question when you were unsure of something… but you didn’t. You sat tight and reminded yourself that good things are on the way like you always do.
Sooner or later, those reminders will grow old and you’ll become resentful of the people around you. Perhaps that’s just human nature, but you should look in the mirror and point a finger at the reflection instead.
While you’re busy contemplating all the ‘what ifs’ and feeling sorry for yourself, many of your loved ones will be out in the world meeting new people and experiencing new things. Many of them won’t need you because they never did — not like you need them, anyway. Maybe they come to you for support or advice every so often, but odds are they never rely on you to hold their hand every step of the way. Aside from a handful of exceptions, it’s more likely that your loved ones want you in their lives because you make them laugh or offer them a perspective that’s different than their own. However, those qualities become less desirable when you make the same mistakes over and over again… when you wait and drift through life with little direction… when you get too comfortable with things being done for you. When that happens, many of your loved ones will move on in another direction. Although they won’t forget about you, those relationships will never be the same, either.
But rather than being resentful, put yourself in their shoes and answer this: Would you want to piggyback someone up and down the peaks and valleys of life on a regular basis? No matter how much you love him or her, you’re bound to get tired eventually. You might try to make it work for a while, but the extra weight will ultimately limit your growth as an individual. How much would you be willing to sacrifice? Do you expect your loved ones to put their lives on hold to carve out a path for you?
Unwrap your legs from around their waist and make your own path. Learn and grow with them because there’s no silver lining when you miss out on life and burden the people that care for you. Sure, you can manufacture one to make yourself feel better in the short term, but that only blurs reality and sets you further back later on. It’s more productive to accept that life is shitty sometimes and put in the effort to find a solution. Grit your teeth, open your mind, and rely on your values and beliefs to guide you through the adversity. You may be disappointed with what you find on the other side, but the true value lies in what you learn about yourself along the way. After all, how can you expect people to love you for who you are if you don’t even know yourself? If you’re willing to put in the work, you’ll discover the good things that you’ve been waiting for all this time.
I’ve been living in an idea; an idea that I want to transform into my own.
