People I just knew, Turned my Friends

Muhammad Danish Qaisar
Nov 4 · 4 min read

There are very few things that have a huge impact on our happiness, enjoyment and even life. Friendship is one of the most important of them. It is possible that there could be people in our lives, we meet daily but aren’t our friends.

That is beautifully described by Terry Pratchett as:

“The city’s full of people who you just see around.”

On the other side, there could be some people, we met a little but are our good friends because we feel emotionally connected with them. We feel that “Yes, this is the person who understands me.”, and we feel comfortable and happy talking with them.

Whenever we hear the word “Friends”, the things that come to our mind are, the people with whom you can share your problems, who can help you in the difficult times, and who can stand with you.

As beautifully said by Walter Winchell:

“ “A real friend is one who walks in when the rest of the world walks out.”

There must be some questions in our mind like How can we make the people we like, our good friends? How can we win the friendship of other people?

For this, I recently studied a brilliant book that was:

“How to win friends and influence people” by Dale Carnegie.

In that book, he explained many stories of different people of how they win the hearts of other people through their behavior, interest, and care.

The main point that I got from the book is:

“We can win friends by making them feel that we are interested in them rather making ourselves interesting.”

Believe that nobody is interested in other people. So, making yourself interesting and believing that other people would start to like you, it is not the case. You have to show your interest in them to win them.

In this book, the example that I liked the most was what dogs do for a living? Humans feed them even by knowing the fact that they can’t benefits us in any way as cow benefits us with meat and milk and hen with eggs.

Waka Flocka Flame beautifully said that:

“No matter how you’re feeling, a little dog gonna love you.”

Then how dogs do that?

The answer is pretty simple because of the quality of dogs to give Love and affection. A dog is the most loyal animal in this world. It is the weakness of human beings that where they find the love they automatically attracted to them and that is the trick that dogs use effectively.

That is the activity that I recently did with some of the people to make them my friends and I am pretty successful in that. I really enjoyed that activity to reach out to the people I didn’t know but now they are my really good friends.

The thing you have to keep in mind that makes them realize that you are interested in them, you are feeling happy and comfortable by talking to them. Ask questions about them. Ask questions about their activities. Give some feedback to their activities and appreciate their efforts. Ask about their plans and any things you want to ask them.

And these are the things that I applied while doing conversations with those people and got really good outcomes.

Shortly we can say that If we want to make real friends we should follow the saying of Rasheed Ogunlaru:

“Be genuinely interested in everyone you meet and everyone you meet will be genuinely interested in you”

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