How To Win Friends & Influence People :

Muhammad Larab
Jul 25, 2017 · 3 min read

How To Win Friends & Influence People is a book authored by Dale Carnegie. By the time How to Win Friends and Influence People was published in 1936 and became an instant bestseller, Dale Carnegie was already a famous public speaking coach and author of five other books. Out of his 11 books, this one has proven to be his most popular, selling over five million copies throughout the author’s life and more than another ten million since then. This blog provides the book summary and encourage to read it.

Chapter 4: DO THIS AND YOU’LL BE WELCOME ANYWHERE.”

The first way to make people like you is quite simple, be interested in them. One easy application the author suggests is to record and remember people’s birthdays. In today’s age it might be more meaningful to wish people a happy birthday a day or two in advance. People like to be remembered, admired, and sought after for help, so if you need something from someone, tell them that they are the only person who can help you, ask for exactly what you need from them, and make it as easy as possible for them to do it.

The author tells several stories about people who genuinely took an interest in the other person, even though that interest wasn’t remotely related to what they needed from them. You will often find that if you simply take an interest in the other person, they will often give you what you need, and frequently more, without you even asking.The fundamental truth is that you will accomplish much more by taking an interest in people, and giving them what they want, then you will by all the best sales techniques in the world.


The Interested Challenge!

Dale Carnegie said very true and I also tried this technique in my real life and got some experience that is, if we are interested in someone then he also start taking interest in ourselves. For instance according to this challenge I asked some questions from my friend such as start conservation in formal way and then questions about his work, daily routine, about his family, about career, and many others then he also started take interest in me and advised me about my future plan and higher education. At that time I realized everybody needs some attention if we pay attention to people, it will be very helpful for us because they also give better attention to us in return. It also fulfill the saying that is being interested is better than being interesting. Interested means you are passionate about that thing or in some person but interesting means you just having interest in that thing, and interest can be change by the time.

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