Introverts of the world unite, you have nothing to lose except human company
I am glad to hear that James Altucher is an introvert. So I am I. Sometimes I feel that the company of animals and Nature is much better than that of humans. I am not a misanthrope. I choose my company. Large human gatherings drain my energy. What I hate most is when two or three people gather they mostly gossip- tell bad things about others. And I hate people who crack crude jokes to show off their ‘wit.’ I used to be ashamed of my introversion. Susan Cain’s book transformed me. Thank God I am born as an introvert because I don’t need to be in the company of strangers to prove that I am amiable by disposition. I don’t have the necessity to listen to toxic discourses that happen in public gatherings. Negative talk produces negative energy.
I prefer the company of books to human company. Book reading is not a solitary activity. When we read a book, we are listening to the author. Listening to classical music is also better than chatting trivial things with humans.
A stroll in Nature is better than being in a party full of gossiping people.
Conventional wisdom has exalted networks and friendships as great virtues. I think selfishness and not selflessness is the essential human nature. If someone helps you, he will expect a payback. You scratch my back; I scratch yours is the defining paradigm of human interactions.
The human animal is guilty of history’s worst crimes and massacres. Only humans kill for pleasure. Only human animals kill themselves. Animals don’t commit suicide.
The progress of the human race is a myth. We are not more civilized than the Stone Age Humans. Sure, we don’t see large scale wars like the World Wars. But that doesn’t mean we have become less violent or more civilized. Human slavery exists, although not visible or institutionalized. Massacres are happening in war-hit areas. Terrorists kill innocents without remorse.
Democracy exists on paper. The elites have captured it. We, the dumb masses, dutifully vote every four or five years hoping that things will change for the better. But nothing changes, and we don’t learn any lessons also.
A man named Christopher Knight lived in a forest in Maine for 27 years without human company. He seems to be happier and wiser after his- human-free experience ( “ The Stranger in the Wild: The Extraordinary Story of the Last True Hermit” by Michael Finkel ).
Talking about introverts has led me to ramble across human experiences and pretensions.
Psychologists say there is a spectrum within which human personalities exist. There are introverts, extroverts, and ambiverts- those who can be both depending on the context.
Shy and solitary children experience hell in schools. Bullying a shy child should be made a serious offence. We need to teach children to be supportive of reclusive kids. America has taken individualism too far. Children need mentoring more than they need freedom. The society and the state do not seem to care about bullying. They think it is normal. To normalize bullying is a dangerous attitude because it legitimatizes the harassment of introvert children who avoid the company of other kids.
Leave introvert children alone because they want to be left alone. Each kid is different. Don’t force sociability on them. They need space to grow and can flourish without too much of human company. These children will grow to be more useful to the society than the bullies who may turn into crooked bankers or politicians in future.
Introverts of the world, celebrate your aloofness, unite and show the world what you are capable of.