2 Reasons Why People Lose Motivation
Realign your perspective on how you see what motivation is!
Don’t look for motivation! Before you get me wrong let me build up the story. It’s an innate nature of human beings to yearn for keeping our motivation alive. When we lose motivation, we feel hopeless, we feel like a vagabond roaming in the desert of Arizona.
In the venture of life, the gravity of motivation is veritable. Nevertheless, in this epoch of the internet, the “5-min You Can Do It”-type “Motivational” videos are rather detrimental. Let me explain why.
Before getting into the point, we need to consider 2 key aspects that drive a motivated person.
- Bigger purpose in life
- Observing a positive impact
So, when you watch a 5-min video full of positive energy and motivation; it expedites your energy rush and motivates you just by listening to those 4 words: “You Can Do It!” Then suddenly you realize that those videos are no less than narcotics which provides you with a surge of mental strength. Then declines precipitously.
Let me tell you the truth: “You Can’t Do It”. That’s not me. That’s your past talking. Didn’t you relapse and tell yourself, “why did I lose motivation so quickly?” Because you have listened to some junk out there from which you have gained an instant feeling of motivation with no clear direction or purpose. No matter how many times you watch those motivational videos, you have neither created any cause or meaning for what you’re doing nor you have added any value to other people’s lives.
One of the common reasons successful people don’t give up or don’t lose motivation is that they have a bigger purpose for what they are doing. A lofty purpose that lets them stay up till midnight and drag them out of their cozy bed at the instant they wake up.
Having a strong purpose will keep you firm and won’t let you give up when other people will laugh or crack jokes about you.
Positive Impact and “IF”
Instead of 4 words, I look for 5. “You can do it IF!” If you can fail 100 times; You can solve this problem, if you can discover your cognitive bias. If you know that quantum mechanics defies local realism. You can do it if you can push yourself hard enough.
When we dive into a problem, not having any required knowledge or skills, we end up doing nothing. And this is the end of your “You can do it”. Having necessary skillset and knowledge is also another “IF” for keeping your motivation alive; like a sleepless hound guarding your door not blinking for a moment. I often struggle with this “IF”. So, I’m aiming the arrow at myself too.
Have you ever felt strong after solving a tiny problem?
How did you feel seeing the euphoria of that impecunious man when you have given them $5?
In my definition, that strange feeling of strength is motivation. That feeling can only be achieved by going through the problem yourself or seeing an impact of what you’re doing. It requires hardship, sacrifice, and a lot of time. Time is an investment you can’t buy with millions of dollars. Striving through time, you can cultivate that prevailing motivation we all yearn for.
In my tiny piece of brain, I can make or break my world. It is your choice whether you take the “5-min” energy injection that lasts an hour or you invest an hour — maybe a year — and have a life long taste of reviving positive energy.