3. Earning Love

Saki Eggs
Saki Eggs
Sep 8, 2018 · 2 min read

Recently I have been pondering about the things that I think I deserve and the things that I feel that people around me, think I deserve. There is a famous saying that goes like “we get the love we think we deserve” which also resonates with my recent mind wanderings.

How much must we give in order to receive a decent amount of love?

Ideally, as living beings, there should be a certain base of love. A default. We should be loved just because we are alive, no matter what our backgrounds are, no matter what kind of persons we are. Then as we advance into the other facets of life, that love should grow exponentially. Ideally. If you are a nice person who obeys the law, respects people around you, cares for your family and friends - then it should only be natural that you receive big love. But, reality can be twisted sometimes. And the problem is blurred between the receiver and giver of love because it could be a wrong perception of one or the other. Or it could be something else. Regardless, the conflict that I see is in the notion of earning love.

Who determines what we deserve? Why must love be earned? Why can’t it be given generously on the simplest terms? Why are there instances when love seems like a commodity that must be traded?

As individuals, we have the liberty to choose who we love. We have our own set of standards on who deserves our love. That’s okay. That’s normal. We can’t love everyone the same way. But, must it always be worth the highest price? Must it always be hard to earn, or hard to take? Why do we put such a high premium on love if everyone, literally every single one of us, is in need of it?

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