The Interested Challenge!
My first introduction to Dale Carnegie was a very surprising one. It was an intense physics laboratory class and the instructor was determined to teach what he could to the students and I happened to be one of them. The students started feeling bored so they tried to steer the discussion from physics to some interesting topic. In the heat of the debate on different topics which had no inter-connection whatsoever, a name popped up. That was Dale Carnegie and for the next ten minutes or so, sir was praising his books and I made up my mind to read his books whenever I find leisure time but that didn’t happen and now here I am; stumbled upon his book.
In the first chapter of the book How to Win Friends & Influence People, he by giving a bunch of examples emphasizes on a simple but pertinent point that being interested is better than being interesting. It attracts too many long-time friendships. When you listen to the experiences of other people, you give yourself a chance of great learning from their good or bad instances of life. You should try to get yourself out of the shell of your ego and be humble and grounded. I was impressed by this quote from the book, “You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you”.
For the activity, I preferred some of my old friends with whom I was not in touch with recently. So, obviously, there were a lot of things to be asked or shared about. I tried to remain passive in the conversation and due to that I could dig deep into my friend’s life stories. It made a positive impact instantaneously and I could feel that. Some of them wanted to liberate themselves of certain thoughts and ideas and I gave them full chance of doing that and they were very happy about it. Also at the end of all this, I realized in meantime I was able to learn many new things as someone has rightly said and this is Dalai Lama “When you talk, you are only repeating what you already know. But if you listen, you may learn something new.”
In a nutshell, when you stop thinking just about yourself and keep an eye on the things around you then the life surely becomes more interesting.