Finding Your Life Purpose

Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life? words by Mary Oliver.

This question got me thinking last year, and that’s how I ended up reading this book on Callings: The Purpose and Passion of Work by Dave Isay. In Callings, Dave Isay presents unforgettable stories from people doing what they love. Some found their paths at a very young age, others later in life; some overcame great odds or upturned their lives to pursue what matters to them.

Finding your life purpose is like finding your own personal legend.

We all have to find our own personal legend that inspires us every moment of our life. An excerpt from The Storytellers Secret by Carmine Gallo and a story narrative by Oprah Winfrey describes calling as a personal legend from her favourite author Paul Coelho in his book The Alchemist.(and mine too!)

When a person chooses a path that fills that person’s soul with passion and enthusiasm, he or she is following their personal legend and when that happens, ‘All the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it.

The universe keeps sending us signs and it is our own awareness that will help us connect the dots.

Calling in Life

When we see a pattern of events that keep happening in our lives, don’t we keep wondering about this one question all the time?

Why me?

Why do I keep attracting these events in my life?

I’m certain this thought has crossed your mind.

The thought is not to question why me? But addressing these patterns.

I happened to experience this similar pattern of events. In the words of my bestie, she says that “ Trouble finds me”.

But that said, I had to push myself out of my comfort zone to find a deeper meaning to my life.

To begin with, you have to distance yourself from anything that does not make you happy, enthusiastic or look forward to on a daily basis. I left my successful corporate job on a mission to find my happy, and taking one step at a time at exploring many different passions. I may not be there yet and haven’t figured it all out, but at least I am walking the path. What matters is that I am taking action to start this journey of seeking my life purpose.

Everybody has a calling, and our real job in life is to figure out what that is and get about the business of doing it.

Ignite The Fire Within You

We have to fight for our calling and ignite the fire within us to chase this every single day of our life. It’s this life we don’t need to take a vacation from.

Dave Isay talks about the below intersection in a Venn diagram with three things while trying to find your calling: doing something you’re good at, feeling appreciated, and believing your work is making people’s lives better.

Venn Diagram on Finding Your Calling

An excerpt from his interview — When those three things line up, it’s like lightning,” Isay says. He doesn’t suggest that a person has to be a surgeon saving lives to feel like they have a calling; think of the diner waitress who talks to customers and makes them feel loved. How do you find this overlap? “You have to shut out all the chatter of what your friends are telling you to do, what your parents are telling you to do, what society is telling you to do,” Isay says, “and just go to that quiet place inside you that knows the truth.

The Inner Voice That Matters

In my previous blog post — A Student of Life Forever I talked about listening to one’s inner voice, and that will lead us to find out what we are meant to do with our lives.

According to Jeff Goins, we can find a higher purpose to our life by answering to one self the following three questions:

  1. What do I love?
  2. What am I good at?
  3. What does the world need?

There is no one set way to find a higher purpose in your life.

But realizing that you have a greater meaning to life, in my opinion, is a journey you have already begun and these three questions will guide you to find those answers.

It is the trust in our gut, instinct or perhaps calling that leads us to a path to discover our reality. We are always guided as we start walking the road to turn our dreams into reality.

Guide to Finding Your Inner Voice

We only grow into the fullness of our destiny when we are self-aware and connected to our inner voice.

So how do we find our inner voice? A friend asked me this question, and that lead me to write this post.

Here are a few ways you can hear your inner voice better:

Meditation

Meditation sharpens your awareness skills. It helps you find stillness. The more you practice quietening that noisy, fearful voice, the more you’ll hear the commanding voice that guides and protects.

I learned about the 24 minute meditation and connecting to our soul. It’s through this practice that we hone our intuition and become more self-aware.

Find Your Own Me Time

Spend some time daily by yourself. Beat the moment. Enjoy the simple things in life. Look at the skies, mountains, birds, children playing, people sharing moments of laughter.

I’d say that practicing mindfulness is when you are guided to your inner voice.

Raise Your Human Consciousness

Have you ever thought about why the great writers, like Leo Tolstoy and Dostoevsky, have managed to describe in detail the inner world of a man, revealing human characters, so precisely that fictional characters become real?

It’s the ability to be a good observer and having this phenomenal awareness to let people introspect into their lives that you become more self-aware and start to tune into that inner voice that talks to you all the time.

I have been lucky to have found a dear friend and confidante whose super power is to raise the level of consciousness in a person. She makes me think, and her superpower has helped me connect my ideas and stories so that I can see for myself my skill and abilities and help me discover my life purpose.

It’s raising this level of human consciousness where we unravel our life lessons.

Adversity Transforms Our Lives

We all have to fight to find our life purpose and when we realise that our suffering is not random or meaningless, we find meaning to our life.

It’s in these adversities that helps us seek the true meaning of life.

Sometimes it is the tragic loss of a spouse or family member, a life threatening medical condition or even a divorce from a partner that let’s us seek within our soul, our sole purpose of our existence.

We have to fight our own demons.

Said by J.K.Rowling and her words left an impression on me.

“Some failure in life is inevitable. It is impossible to live without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all — in which case, you fail by default. The knowledge that you have emerged wiser and stronger from setbacks means that you are, even after, secure in your ability to survive. You will never truly know yourself, or the strength of your relationship, until both have been tested by adversity. Such knowledge is a true gift.”

We might fail a few times before we walk the right path. But trust your instinct, follow your inner voice and do what makes your heart sing.


Shivani is a marketing strategist, aspiring storyteller and a seeker of inspiration. Shivani uses her writing as an opportunity to learn first and to inspire second. If you have any inspiring story to share, please connect with Shivani on email. You can follow Shivani on Twitter.

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