How many times have you logged onto your social media and seen your peers doing so much better that yourself and start thinking, 'wow Karen is driving now. Oh and her boyfriend he's so handsome and takes her to all these fancy places.' Maybe you may have even gone like, 'oh her waist is so tiny and her hips so full.' And suddenly you want to have a handsome boyfriend and a tiny waist and drive a car like Karen. Now, chances are you cannot be Karen and you probably will not get a tiny waist like her because of something we call genetics and now you feel like a failure and get into depression and self pity and start thinking there is something wrong with you. It happens to the best of us.

Technology, especially social media has glamourized influencers potraying a false sense of reality that is really really detrimental to mental health. It has made 20 year olds hate themselves and feel like losers for not having the perfect body or driving the perfect car like their peers who are most likely fronting. It is natural for all of us to want to be seen in the best light possible and it's no wonder apps that have filters manipulating the body and the face have become so popular.

In a society that that has more than 4 billion social media users, its pretty safe to say that the platforms are not going anywhere soon, however wouldn't it be nice if maybe the platforms issued disclaimers on altered pictures providing a little bit of clarity, then that way maybe the anxiety levels and depression and cases of suicide among teens amd young adults would atleast go down. Well this is highly unlikely, I'm aware, and the most viable obvious solution anyone would suggest would be to cut off social media, which is not easy to do. A recent study showed that social media validation stimulates the brain in the same way cocaine would just not as intense.

Don't get me wrong I am not saying social media and technology are evil and should be banned and all. It actually has its benefits. Knowledge has been made so easily available, networking and connections that would not be physically possible is now enabled and it has made the world like a small village. The fakeness and 'perfection' been fronted on the sites is what riles me up.

It may be hard but maybe taking a break from everything might be a step towards improving mental health and feeling better. And no love, nobody expects you to have it all figured out in your 20s it's okay.



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