Sep 24, 2021Diary of a Meep-CrashDay: f**k knows at this point Note: This story is from around May 2017. For some reason (probably brain fog) I never published it at the time. …5 min read5 min read
Aug 11, 2017Non-hierarchical poly — a brief rant from a disabled personI tend to get some rage happening when I hear people condemning hierarchical polyamory like there’s something ethically wrong with it. Because to me what they’re doing is making some inherently very privileged assumptions about the people involved. To name just a few: That a) they have the standard amount…Mental Health4 min readMental Health4 min read
Mar 25, 201710 Things You Should Know Before You Date A Spoonie‘When you said you had M.E. I just assumed that meant we’d spend a lot of time watching Netflix in our pyjamas,’ my partner said. ‘I was fine with that. But that’s not what it’s like at all. …Life Lessons13 min readLife Lessons13 min read
Mar 14, 2017Diary of a Meep-crashDay, er… Not sure where the time went, people. So I’m now about two weeks (er, or more?) into this particular crash. No, hang on, it’s definitely more. Four weeks? Three? The stuff I wrote before about being able to hold myself through the process of the crash. Yeah. Crashes…Mental Health3 min readMental Health3 min read
Feb 15, 2017Diary of a Meep-crashDay 5: The joy of work when you’re chronically ill You might notice that I keep missing days in this diary. That’s because — unsurprisingly — I don’t have the energy to do it every day at the moment. Also, I still cling to the idea that it’s not acceptable…Chronic Illness3 min readChronic Illness3 min read
Feb 6, 2017Diary of a Meep-crashDay 3: Schrodinger’s Disabled Person So today I had my disability benefit appeal hearing. I won. Three highly qualified people — a judge, a doctor and a carer — told me that yes, I am disabled. Yes, I have significant impairment in both daily living and mobility. Yes, the fact…Disability3 min readDisability3 min read
Feb 4, 2017Diary of a Meep-crashDay 1: This is a scary thing to be doing I am a perfectionist when it comes to writing. OK, I’m a perfectionist, full stop. …Chronic Illness2 min readChronic Illness2 min read
Sep 16, 2016Embarrassing Confession: On a bad day, Facebook has the power to make me cryIt goes like this: “I’m so grateful that the Universe has given me [insert amazing career/creative opportunity] and wonderful friends who have donated [insert enormous sum of money] to my Kickstarter so that I can follow my dreams…” the first post on my news feed might say. It occurs to…Life Lessons7 min readLife Lessons7 min read
Sep 8, 2016How to stop playing the Facebook GameWhen social media just keeps punching you in the face with how you’re Not Winning At Life — Spoons Warning: This piece is over 3K words long. A TL;DR version for those short on energy is here. Embarrassing Confession: On a Bad Health Day (and over 50 per cent of my days are such, just in case anyone from Atos is checking up on me) Facebook has the…Chronic Illness13 min readChronic Illness13 min read
