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How My First Boyfriend, a Murder Suspect, Shaped My Anxious Attachment

At 17, my first boyfriend was the main suspect in a satanic ritual killing, creating severe anxious attachment that’s taken 22 years to…

Dec 7, 2024

How My First Boyfriend, a Murder Suspect, Shaped My Anxious Attachment

Dec 7, 2024

What a Discard Does to an Anxious Attache

When your greatest fear comes true…and keeps echoing

2d ago

What a Discard Does to an Anxious Attache

2d ago

What it Feels Like to Be Securely Attached

Secure attachment is not flashy or performative. It’s not a constant loop of highs and lows…

4d ago

What it Feels Like to Be Securely Attached

4d ago

How Identity Statuses Tie Into Attachment Styles, and the Puzzle of Becoming Yourself

It’s time to haul out James Marcia’s theory of the four identity statuses

4d ago

How Identity Statuses Tie Into Attachment Styles, and the Puzzle of Becoming Yourself

4d ago

Rupture and Repair: What Your Attachment Style Does When Things Go Wrong

Ruptures aren’t just fights. They’re moments when something frays in the invisible thread that holds two people together.

5d ago

Rupture and Repair: What Your Attachment Style Does When Things Go Wrong

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Why there is no “them” — there’s only

Your attachment style isn’t better and their’s isn’t worse — we are all responsible for working on becoming secure

5d ago

Why there is no “them” — there’s only

5d ago

Not All Avoidants Are the Same: The Two Faces of Avoidant Attachment

“I need space” and “I’m scared of losing you” can sound similar if you’re not listening closely.

6d ago

Not All Avoidants Are the Same: The Two Faces of Avoidant Attachment

6d ago

Worksheet: Two Exercises for Fearful Avoidants Seeking Stable Connection

Worksheets for Fearful Avoidants

6d ago

Worksheet: Two Exercises for Fearful Avoidants Seeking Stable Connection

6d ago

When The Avoidant Pulls Away, This is What the Anxious Partner Should Do

Disrupting the anxious-avoidant trap

6d ago

When The Avoidant Pulls Away, This is What the Anxious Partner Should Do

6d ago

The Chemistry of Distance: Avoidant Attachment and Oxytocin Explained

Oxytocin lives in the body like a quiet background process

May 2

The Chemistry of Distance: Avoidant Attachment and Oxytocin Explained

May 2

My Avoidant Ex

My Avoidant Ex

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I'm Molly, therapist & previously anxious after my first boyfriend was a main murder suspect. I've studied attachment theory & narcissism & write about them.

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