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How My First Boyfriend, a Murder Suspect, Shaped My Anxious Attachment

At 17, my first boyfriend was the main suspect in a satanic ritual killing, creating severe anxious attachment that’s taken 22 years to…

Dec 7, 2024

How My First Boyfriend, a Murder Suspect, Shaped My Anxious Attachment

Dec 7, 2024

Dichotomous Thinking Is the Mental Trap Keeping You Stuck: Why Anxious & Avoidant Attachment Styles…

Welcome to the land of extremes. Population: Your nervous system.

2d ago

Dichotomous Thinking Is the Mental Trap Keeping You Stuck: Why Anxious & Avoidant Attachment Styles…

2d ago

The Marriage Is Still Intact, But the Connection’s Gone: Coping with Avoidant Emotional Withdrawal

There’s a particular kind of loneliness that forms not after a breakup, but within a relationship. You share the same bed. You raise…

3d ago

The Marriage Is Still Intact, But the Connection’s Gone: Coping with Avoidant Emotional Withdrawal

3d ago

Co-Parenting with an Avoidant

How to work with an avoidant on parenting matters when connection is low

4d ago

Co-Parenting with an Avoidant

4d ago

Love, Actually, Is a Series of Psychological Tests You Didn’t Know You Signed Up For

The 5 Stages of a Relationship Most Have Never Heard of and How they Test the Relationship

5d ago

Love, Actually, Is a Series of Psychological Tests You Didn’t Know You Signed Up For

5d ago

When You’re In Too Deep: Loving an Avoidant for the Long Haul

What to do when leaving isn’t the option

6d ago

When You’re In Too Deep: Loving an Avoidant for the Long Haul

6d ago

What a Discard Does to an Anxious Attache

When your greatest fear comes true…and keeps echoing

May 9

What a Discard Does to an Anxious Attache

May 9

What it Feels Like to Be Securely Attached

Secure attachment is not flashy or performative. It’s not a constant loop of highs and lows…

May 7

What it Feels Like to Be Securely Attached

May 7

How Identity Statuses Tie Into Attachment Styles, and the Puzzle of Becoming Yourself

It’s time to haul out James Marcia’s theory of the four identity statuses

May 7

How Identity Statuses Tie Into Attachment Styles, and the Puzzle of Becoming Yourself

May 7

Rupture and Repair: What Your Attachment Style Does When Things Go Wrong

Ruptures aren’t just fights. They’re moments when something frays in the invisible thread that holds two people together.

May 6

Rupture and Repair: What Your Attachment Style Does When Things Go Wrong

May 6

My Avoidant Ex

My Avoidant Ex

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I'm Molly, therapist & previously anxious after my first boyfriend was a main murder suspect. I've studied attachment theory & narcissism & write about them.

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