Expectation Therapy — Expectation Therapy
This will be an update on the progress of my book, Expectation Therapy, and the journey it has entailed. We are inching ever so close to the release date. I would have to venture a guess it will be released sometime in mid to late April but that is only a guess on my part.…
How I Handled Abandonment
I can remember like it was yesterday the first time I felt the gut wrenching feelings I had of being abandoned and left alone.
What is the Value in being Open Minded
If you have read much of what I have written you are pretty much aware that I am not a fearful person, meaning that I don’t react to events in my life from a point of fear. Faith has pretty much defined how I react to life. With that being said, One of my others…
Mindfulness vs. Mindlessness
A question I am often asked is, ” I’ve read all the books and articles on changing my life and my self-awareness, but I can’t seem to make it happen.” I believe this is a common dilemma in our society that has to be addressed and mastered to achieve fulfillment in one’ own self worth.
My Restaurant
My restaurant is a different kind of place, much like I am. It’s an extension of me some would say. We serve up soul food, food that enriches the souls and spirit of all that desire to be fed. All people are welcomed to the establishment.
Effort Trumps All
There is one defining fact that I can say with all certainty that is paramount for success in any endeavor attempted, EFFORT TRUMPS ALL. We live in a world where shorts cuts are envied and promoted by many individuals across the internet. There are scheme’s that promote work less and make more $$$$, get a…
Say No to Resolutions & Yes to Expectations 2014
Millions of people around the world make resolutions every New Year’s Day. They range from quitting smoking to the most common of all, the dreaded resolution to lose weight. We do this with the intent to keep to the goals we set but as time wears on we start to lose the battle. We slowly…
I Don’t Know You but I Sure Would Like to
Have you ever watched a youtube video or read a blog and thought, “ I’d sure like to meet this person. I think this all the time. I think it because I’m such a people person and like to connect with people. I like to connect because I learn so much from interacting with folks,…
If Only We Could
Austin, TX is in the midst of an ice storm, which the social media titans are calling “Icepocalypse 2014”. We had over 275 car accidents just this morning as a result of the storm. In the process of being the father I am, I called my kids to make sure all were safe and had…
A Good Place to Start
I like to observe and form what I hope are intelligent decisions about important issues in my life. I have been putting a great deal of thought lately into the issue our nation is struggling with in Washington, D.C. I wrote about it in my last blog and will continue here with this one. I…
Thinking Differently
I am blessed and cursed! Convicted of thinking differently most of my life. Here is a little background as a point of reference to my crazy mixed up methods of learning. I attended several schools while growing up. I began in New Jersey where I attended kindergarten to second grade in a public school, third…
Honoring Memories
This past week there was a video that went viral called “Sweet Lorraine”. It is about a 96 year old man named Fred Stobaugh from rural Illinois. Fred was married to Lorraine for 75 years before she passed away this year. Fred answered an ad in his local paper for a song-writing contest with a…
The Richest Man in the World
Through reflection on my life I have come to this realization; all the good that has come my way and the beautiful gifts that have been bestowed upon me are what enrich my life. What I’ve come to realize is that riches are not measured by the size of your bank account, how many friends…
Synergy of Life Part II
At the conclusion of my last blog post, I stated I would make it into a two-part series so here it is. I left off at the point right after my late wife had passed away and I in my infinite wisdom made the choice to wallow in my own sorrow. As explained previously she…
The Synergy of Life
Have you ever noticed when everything in your life is flowing at a pace that makes you feel in touch, connected and at peace with yourself? It is such an awesome feeling to have, relaxed at peace in synergy with your wholeness, body, mind and soul working in unison. Why can’t we achieve this state…
The Best Christmas Gift I Could Ever Give or Receive
This is the time of year when I doing a lot of reflecting and introspection into my life. I’m not really sure why I get this way. Sometimes it brings joy into my heart and spirit and sometimes it does not. One thing I know for certain is it gives me the opportunity to open…
The Most Powerful Tool In Your Tool Chest
A question I am asked quite often is, “ How can I create effective change in my life”? This is something we all have a vested interest in since most of us have something about ourselves we would like to change. This can range from deep soulful changes to simple daily thoughts and activities. I…
The Problem
We have a dilemma in this country that we the people need to fix as soon as possible. The way I have always approached dilemmas and problems that need to be rectified is a simple process and very common sense based. It doesn’t make any difference if it is work or family related, this is…
Veterans Day-The Marines & Me
First and foremost I would like to thank each and every veteran that has served this great nation of ours. Monday, November 11 is Veteran’s Day. Happy Veteran’s Day!!! Thank you from the inner depths of my soul for your service! Sunday, November 10, 2013 is the 238th Marine Corp birthday. God Bless the Marine…
What is Expectation Therapy?
Expectation Therapy is a catalyst for change. Starting with the individual and progressing into changing the world and how it views expectations: What if you could revolutionize your life from the top to the bottom by altering your mindset in just one way? There is an answer to that question and it’s quite simple: mastering…
What is the Value in being Open Minded
What is the Value in being Open Minded If you have read much of what I have written you are pretty much aware that I am not a fearful person, meaning that I don’t react to events in my life from a point of fear. Faith has pretty much defined how I react to life.…
What do Meditation, Prayer, & Expectations Have in Common?
What do Meditation, Prayer, & Expectations Have in Common? Have you ever been to a sporting event or a large group meeting where you can feel the energy flowing through the stadium or room? The molecules are flying through the air! I’m not joking, there is a correlation between these molecules and the energy produced.…
What We Speak Matters
This past week my wife and I decided to stop and have a bite to eat at a local restaurant here in Austin. We were seated at a table next to a group of college students. This is not an uncommon occurrence here as there are a number of colleges in town besides the University…
When Life Hands You Marshmallows
We all have heard the saying “when life hands you lemons, make lemonade”. I had this thought the other day, “what if life hands you a marshmallow”, what are you going to do then? What I mean by this is; what if you are handed life on a platter where everything has been given and…
I am a What If~~~~ Kind of Man
I can remember my very first “what if” moment! When I was around five or six, my mother and I were driving down a road and there was a truck in front of us. I can remember it like it was yesterday. It was carrying long section of pipe around 2 inches in diameter and…
The Thanksgiving That Changed Me
Most days I wake up ready to change the world, then one morning I woke up and the world was waiting to change me! That’s how I describe Thanksgiving Day, November 24, 1966. I was a young 18-year-old Marine stationed North of Da Nang trying to make sense out of my life and how I…
Lessons From Mr. Wright
Senior Louisville Male High School is blessed to have an incredible physics teacher named Jeffrey Wright. Blessed and gifted with the skills that most teachers are not taught or are unwilling to share with their students. When you hear students make comments like Chelsea Fox, “I had things going on and he reached out”…
Every Life Matters
We have had a rash of young people taking their own life in the Austin area lately. It breaks my heart each and every time I hear about another life shortened and stolen from us. There is a compelling story behind my sorrow that will shed some light on to the whys and what…
The Treasure’s of 55 Fourth St. San Francisco
If you are wondering what’s at 55 Fourth St. in San Francisco, it is the Marriott Marquis Hotel. Beverly and I stayed there this past Wednesday through Saturday for Beverly’s birthday and a much-needed rest and relaxation break. Now for the meat and potatoes of this post, “The Treasure’s” part! While on our stay I…
Your Future Depends on It!
A question that I’m often asked is “ Do expectations really matter”? My answer is pretty straightforward. More than you will ever realize is my pat answer. But it goes much deeper when I let my heart’s desires run loose with my passion about the need to teach and explore expectations. Why do they matter?…
What’s Love Got to Do With It?
What’s Love Got to Do With It? Man has searched for the meaning of love for as long as we have walked the face of this earth. What lies inside the human mind that requires this search for love’s definitive meaning? Writers have written about it, singers have sung about it and men and women…
I’m So Grateful Mom & Dad Had Sex
Happy (belated) Mother’s Day to all the mothers around the world! I reflect often on the fact that if my Mother had not submitted to my Father on some fateful day in December 1946, I might not be on this earth today. My Mom taught me so much about living and loving life. Here’s…
Thought
Once in a while I read something so profound and on target that I am inspired to share it in its entirety from the author, such is the case of this document by Abel Allen Thought ~ Abel Allen Early pioneer of New Thought Plato said: “Thinking is the talking of the soul with itself.”…
A Sense of Community
This past week Beverly and I took a short trip to Parsons, Tennessee to see her spry active eighty-seven year old mother. I love taking this trip on so many levels. First of all I love seeing her mom and spending time with her. Her soft Tennessee ways I find comforting as opposed to our…
Opening Doors
I was at the post office the other day and as usual there was a steady stream of people coming and going. I am always a courteous gentleman so I was holding the door open for the folks entering or leaving. I noticed some people responded with a thank you and some were in their…
Disengaged
I feel well qualified to write about being disengaged because from age 9 to 16 I was not engaged in life. I have worked diligently to disprove this point for the rest of my life. What is the meaning of the word, by definition it is: release from something that holds fast, connects, or…
The Devil’s Tool
Diminished expectations are the devil’s tool by which he controls people. Does this sound far-fetched? Just think about the things you haven’t attempted to do in your life. Why haven’t you moved forward with some of your ideas, plans or events? I’ll tell you why, fear, that’s why. Our drive to excel, create, and thrive…
Evil Does Exist
I have always been fascinated with the idea of what makes a person choose to do evil instead of good things with their life. If you noticed I used the word choose because I believe that it is a choice we make. I will concede to the fact that other circumstances can contribute to bad…
Diversity
When most people hear the word diversity, they think of a government program to bring ethnic equality to schools and the workplace. I think of diversity from a different perspective. In my mind it is thinking from the point of view where I can look at all elements of an idea, problem or solution. When…
MY DAD
Ever since I can remember I have sought and desired my Dad’s love and approval. First I will give you a little history about my Dad. He was born and raised in Brooklyn, NY into a large Irish Catholic family. His father died when he was quite young. They were a devoted and passionate unionized…
Forgiveness Is Divine
Throughout the history of mankind there have been many atrocities perpetrated against men, women, and children. What has separated most societies has been the ability to forgive one another and move forward learning from our mistakes. Forgiveness is a gift, which some people can do easily and other’s struggle to find a way. What makes…
Creativity In Children
This is a question I have been intrigued with for many years. I have heard it said that creativity is something you have or don’t have. In other words you are either born with it or without it. That in itself has bothered me to no end simply because it implies that you either have…
Breaking The Rules
I would like to make one thing perfectly clear, breaking the rules has an entirely different meaning than breaking the law. I do not promote or endorse breaking any laws. What I do mean by breaking the rules is that it is okay to push boundaries, as long as pushing the boundaries within reason doesn’t…
Intent
I have been intrigued by the word intent for a long time. Intent is a dynamic and effecting word with powerful implications associated with it. Here is Webster’s definition of intent: 1in·tent Noun \in-ˈtent\ : The thing that you plan to do or achieve: an aim or purpose Full Definition of INTENT 1 A: the…
Problem Solving Simplified
I love solving problems. Or maybe I love figuring out what makes things happen the way they do. If you are like me, and I think many people are, when it comes to problem solving you think in terms of math problem solving. The solutions to most problems are solved in the same manner as…
Discrimination
Last night I was searching for something interesting for us to watch on television when I ran across a documentary about the Women’s Air Force Service Pilots, WASP’S, of WWII. I already had a little knowledge and experience about this courageous group of women. When I was in high school my parents had a friend…
Why God Didn’t Make One Size Loin Cloth
I am the world’s biggest supporter of individual choice! I whole-heartedly believe God gave us the power to pick and choose the paths we follow in life. We are also responsible for those choices we make, not to point fingers, lay blame on others and to the importance of taking ownership of our choices.…
The Importance of Emotional Intelligence
Why is it so important to have emotional intelligence? What is Emotional Intelligence? Emotional Intelligence (EI) is the ability to perceive, control and evaluate emotions. I have read that emotional intelligence can be learned and strengthened while some claim it is an inborn characteristic. Since 1990, Peter Salovey and John D. Mayer have been the…
Letter to Cameron
I love to observe people, even if they are family. My wife, Beverly, has a long time friend whose oldest child is a son named Cameron. We are like family though our bloodlines are not linked. He even walked my wife down the aisle at our wedding. When I first met Cameron he was around…
Perspective & Perception
Perspective is the lens with which we digest and react to the world we live in. How we develop perspective is one of the most intriguing processes for me. Prospective has a pronounced effect on everything we do in life, how we feel and react to the most minuscule of events to the most traumatic.…
Respect Thy Self
Respect is paramount to your self-image and respecting others. My dad was a man of few words but great thoughts. He instilled this quote in me when I was a little boy. Treat people the way you want to be treated. Talk to people the way you want to be talked to. Respect is earned…
Guilty — Guilty — Guilty Putin Guilty As Charged
This past week Vladimir Putin, the president of Russia, crafted a statement that revealed one of the theories I have recently developed. In my soon to be released book, Expectation Therapy, I explain this theory called “Collective Diminished Expectations”. The basic premise of collective diminished expectations is that over time governments, religions, and…
My Ten Year Love Affair
My Ten Year Love Affair How do I even start to explain how I had an affair? How do I explain how my heart was captured and held captive for almost ten years? It’s very difficult and heartbreaking to delve into. There is not an easy way to explain it; you just have to do…
Planting Seeds Of Expectation
Planting Seeds Of Expectation When I was a very young boy about the age of nine, I learned about disappointment and abandonment. Pulled away from all that I cherished and found comfort in, my world shattered and turned upside down. What could a boy of nine possibly do to heal himself? How would he know what to…
Effort Trumps All
There is one defining fact that I can say with all certainty that is paramount for success in any endeavor attempted, EFFORT TRUMPS ALL. We live in a world where shorts cuts are envied and promoted by many individuals across the internet. There are scheme’s that promote work less and make more $$$$, get a…
Thinking Differently I am blessed and cursed! Convicted of thinking differently most of my life. Here is a little background as a point of reference to my crazy mixed up methods of learning. I attended several schools while growing up. I began in New Jersey where I attended kindergarten to second grade in a public…
Breaking The Rules
I would like to make one thing perfectly clear, breaking the rules has an entirely different meaning than breaking the law. I do not promote or endorse breaking any laws. What I do mean by breaking the rules is that it is okay to push boundaries, as long as pushing the boundaries within reason doesn’t…
Originally published at expectationtherapy.com.
