The mind-blowing, life-changing power of knowing your worth. — A friend of mine just got divorced. Her husband left her for someone else and she recently started dating again. She is terrified of being the victim of another narcissist or cheater and so she asked my advice. …

If I’d known it was the last piece of popcorn, would it have tasted differently? — I had over 1200 endings with my covert narcissist. You probably think I’m exaggerating. I’m not. If anything, I’m underestimating. He threatened to leave — or left— and Hoovered me back, over and over again. Four solid years. At first, it was once every 3 or 4 days. In the…

I didn’t get much from my relationship with a covert narcissist except a mountain of regret. But I did learn something. — I didn’t get much from my relationship with a covert narcissist except a mountain of regret. But I did learn something. I write about narcissism. When you write about something as honestly depressing as narcissism, it’s important to be attuned to any glint of silver in the lining.

9 potential dangers of relationships with individuals with Narcissistic or Borderline Personality disorders. — Are you in a relationship with a narcissist or borderline? If so, you may be aware of the emotional turmoil and chaos these individuals can bring into your life. But do you know the true extent of the risks involved? …

Coverts are often called vulnerable or fragile narcissists and their insecurities make them vicious. — 1. Fast You have a Lightning Fast Connection with them. Everything moves fast. Pushing for sex the first time you’re alone. Then: “Hey, let’s move in together! Yeah, it’s only been a week but I love you.” Saying I love you fast. Like the second time you see them. Never leaving your…

Reflections on the ability to cope with a covert narcissist’s long-term abuse. — I used to write on Quora. Occasionally, I still check my old stomping grounds — just to see what’s up. It keeps me grounded. Once in a while, I’ll answer a question. A bit of nostalgia. Quora, and answering questions on Quora, reminds me of a time and place when…

Covert narcissists take away the future you saw with them. Do they also steal your past? — Human beings are remarkably resilient. We can and will adapt to almost any circumstance. You are remarkably resilient. How do I know? You’re still standing after months, or years, of narcissistic abuse. You suffered through all manner of devaluation. You’ve been belittled. Demeaned. Gaslighted. …