Shut Up And Do It!
I can recall at least twenty times where people that I love and that are close to me have told me that I couldn’t do things. Mylene, you can’t be a football player, you’re not fit enough. Honey you can’t be first of your class you’re not smart enough, Mimi you can’t possibly believe you will win right? The reality is that negative thinking and negative talking is everywhere around us. We tend to believe that those mean and discouraging statements come mostly from our enemies but the truth is that they surely come a lot from our friends and families too. The thing is our subconscious mind acts like our personal memory card that records everything that happens in our lives. We don’t spend most of our time with our enemies, we spend it with our loved ones and the words we hear from our surroundings shape our minds. So if you are a negative person chances are you must have a negative surrounding.
I remember there was this guy in my class in high school; he was so kind and so gentle, so happy and so well behaved. I was just startled at him because how can someone be so perfect inside and out? I couldn’t help but try to find a bad thing in him so that I could say that at last he was human, but I could not find anything. Then one day I met his sister and she was the female version of him and they were so close it was ridiculous. That is when I started to get it, he was a happy boy because he had a happy surrounding, my guess was confirmed when I met his mum and his dad and little brother, they were just a perfect family. Because of his family he was shaped in a way where he was positive about life and life was rewarding him for it.
As we all know we rip what we sow, If you have a negative perspective about things you are going to attract negative things. The good news is that you were not born this way; you were shaped by your environment. Then does it mean that we need to cut our bond with our families and friends to start thinking positively? Well in some cases that might be necessary, but in most cases it is not. You just need to be aware of what you hear and how you choose to interpret it. The key to a successful and happy life is simple: you ought to believe in yourself. But the reason people put each other down is because they don’t believe in themselves and their own insecurities push them to hurt others. I have never met a person who believes in himself truly and genuinely having a need to put other people down. When you believe in yourself you also start believing in others and you want to uplift them. So when you are conscious of what you allow to get in your head and start thinking positively you will also have an impact in your surrounding which will create an impact in their surroundings and so on and without even knowing it you will be changing the world.
But then if our words can have such an impact in other people lives how can we control what we say? Simple, just shut up. Think about it for a moment. How many things did you say this year that you regretted later? A lot, right? But the problem is even if you regretted it and even apologised for it what you said to that person is now registered in her subconscious permanently. The thing is our actions are easier to control than our words. Before doing something we all think twice about the consequences that act will have, except if when we are dead drunk. And that’s t another problem for another day. But if you are able to filter your action better that your words why not become silent and express what you want with an act? The next time you want to say something to a person, ask yourself how it translates to an action and if that act is something that you would not be willing to do then don’t say it. I’ll give you an example. Let’s say that you are angry at someone and you want to express that anger by a mean comment if the equivalent of that comment is punching the person in the face with a metal bowl, will you do it? No? Good, then don’t say either. Got the title now? Be mindful. Shut up and do it!