Into the eye: Tips to Boosting Your Confidence.

There you go again, “I am not good enough.” No one is. Look at how I said that, so vehemently as if I even know what that “..not good enough” mentality actually means!Tips to Boosting Your Confidence

What comes into your mind every time you look at yourself in the mirror?

We always feel ridiculously competent and confident whenever we are in the front of those light-refracting objects, but dramatically this level of confidence drops tremendously as we delve into our day-to-day activities.

Mirrors remind us that we are way better than what we normally think of ourselves. The person you see in the mirror is a stable and a creative model who is psyched up with emotional expression. And sure enough, you are stronger; with a great blend of strength, sensitivity and creativity that the world admires, (if only not to steal it.)

Self confidence brings the best in people.(if they possess that ‘best’ is in them.) It brings the worst in them as well. When you are confident, you are brave enough to show your strengths to the world, and you never afraid of letting the world know your weaknesses.

However, confidence is not something that everyone is born with, if anyone is born with it at all! It’s a phenomenon that’s part of you and you have to constantly work on it; pruning and pouring manures whenever you deem reasonable.

But we can do without it…!

Sure enough! We always can do without everything, literally. But what do we stand to lose when we don’t work on our confidence?

EVERYTHING.!

And if not, almost.

The reason why this aspect is critical is because we constantly let go of great chances whenever they come knocking because of the feeling of inadequacy. We resent and resolve into mediocrity because we tend to believe that there must be some mortals who are better suited for the job description, and not us. We will never refine our CV’s and or run through our cover letters because we know we are not the winning types! We therefore stop working on ourselves as we used to, after all, we are not the winning types!

But Why Tips to Boosting Your Confidence?

One of the things which hold us back from achieving our dreams for many years is that feeling of inadequacy, low self-esteem and possession of several self-demeaning habits. We stop practicing the smallest aspects of Self-Discipline which serve to make us better, and whenever we get knocked down, we refuse to Rise Again Stronger.

I am still working on my own confidence and that’s okay. Everyone will always be at that level of ‘still working.’ Everyone, except those whom haven’t started yet. Self-confidence building is a continuous process, which never really stops without it having to start again. Your knees will always still buckle every time you stand on an unfamiliar stage, when meeting new people and when moving to new places.

Tips to Boosting Your Confidence

Here are some of the things to boost your confidence. This is not an ultimate guide, but it is what you need it at the moment.

Never Take Anything (anyone) Personally.

As a living individual you will always have to deal with several groups of people. Some will support and revere you in whatever you do, while others will look at you straight into face and tell you are an idiot, a good for nothing chap or something else of the sort. That’s okay.

The only trick is to never take anything to heart. Don’t take it personally. Human beings have suffered and still suffer embarrassments, pains, bitterness, frustrations and sometimes you just end up being their dump sites. Not everything is about us, some are about what we should do when things are about us!

As a Mentor, I focus on helping people to rise stronger and become too tall for the boxes of limitations which the society have tried to gauge them in; and one of the things I have always emphasized is never to take anything personally, because it never really is.

Good Grooming Still Does the Magic.

There is always a type of feeling which you have whenever you buy that beautiful dress. On several occasions you can’t even wait to show the world that you got another one from the fashion shop. Got a new hairstyle? Our lady friends will tell you how much they are at ease when their hairs are in order. Well, I am not saying that you get yourself a new dress, or another tuxedo jacket, but learn to put your body in order. It’s your house.

When you dress nicely you feel more presentable and ready to tackle the world the best way you can. Nothing scares you, and you are likely to feel even better through every conversation you make that day. This way you master several Tips to Boosting Your Confidence.

Positive Thinking Remains the Number One Rule.

You need a dose of it everyday. Sometimes things really get messy and chaotic, and this makes our willpower level to go down drastically. A boss could be down on your neck on a late submission, a disturbing family situation or a worrying grade points in college. It’s possible that you will start allowing negative thoughts into your mind, and make the situations even worse.

Positive thinking demands that you play calm and keep yourself at ease. It’s about convincing yourself that things are not really that bad and probably they will soon get better. Even with an ailing economy, never envision your company collapsing as this acts against your own good and you will start going that road again, of making yourself less worthy.

Know Your Principles and Keep Them.

Confident individuals never go with the crowds, unless they really have a strong reason to. They are always propelled by the reason, why? Learn to have a reason why you are doing one thing, and why you are not doing the other.

Operate within your principles and if you ever find yourself deviating, pause and think. In life we are different models of vehicles fueled by different passions and desires which must agree with what we’ve chosen to live for.

Sometimes, it’s not right to say Yes. Even a ‘No,’ is among the choices in that drop-down button. If you feel that going out that night for a club meet-up is against your principles, don’t go. Say no, and come out assertive. Steer clear of everything that serves to bring your confidence down.

Work on Yourself: Tips to Boosting Your Confidence

You are always a product in the process. Never stop working on yourself. Your confidence is something that is developed over time, and the more you commit, the earlier you begin boosting it. Pause and listen. Discover what is missing and find it.

Sometimes your confidence will be exploded. It could be as a result of that first performance you made and no one even bothered to clap, or that song you sang and went of key. Ever performed a poem on stage and all of a sudden you went blank? These and a couple more could really bring you down, but never be afraid of going back to the stage and right your wrongs. Find the fragments of your confidence and stitch together.

Discover yourself. Dig deeper and always be really to tell the world who you are and what you are up to. The only way to do that, is to know yourself. Trust me, you don’t know who you are. Start entering a journal to discover a wonder.

Think about your limitations, then look keenly to see if truly there is anything that you can’t do. It’s tiresome to work on yourself but depend upon it, its of the greatest importance if only to bring that smile back and that poised posture again.

Your Turn… Got a Story on Tips to Boosting Your Confidence?

What is your take on Tips to Boosting Your Confidence? Did I leave something which you think other amazing readers should know? Well, let me know in the comments section. I would also like to know how you’ve fought your own battle of fear and low self-esteem into becoming a confident lady or a gentleman. Go ahead and hit the comments section below.

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