Spilling the tea no-one else will! — Recently while posting on an Ask A Dominatrix forum online I reviewed the rules — as I always do — and wasn’t surprised to read that threads started about ‘how do I meet a domme?’ would be closed without warning. …

Online FemDom culture should be fun… — If you’re on FemDom twitter you’ve seen them, domme’s with their birthday marked in their bio or — like myself — “BIRTHDAY MONTH” written in big capitols before their name. After posting to my website about my own birthday, with details of how I am going to spoil my submissives…

Submissive men in the wild ain’t that hard to spot. — I’m hot enough to not need to settle — I date whoever I like for however long I like. When I am through, I am through. Doing the work I do I already lead an unconventional life, and have unconventional perspectives on the way a life should be led. This…

Separating genuine submissive men from fantasists — Waking up and reaching for my phone a sleepy smile spread across my face. Whereas my friends are used to the chorus of ‘good morning beautiful!’ messages from dating app dudes, my good morning messages all had cash attached. …

When kinksters themselves police one anothers fetishes. — I was on a forum discussing one of my favorite kinks when someone asked a question that was of the ‘I think this situation I am in is really hot, but just for practicalities sake, how do I get out of it when vanilla life means I have to?’ bent. …

Hiding his kinky self is tough, being out about it would be impossible. — My phone rang and seeing NiteFlirt on the caller ID I smiled and answered, here we go I thought. Who would I have to torment tonight? …

When compulsory monogamy is boring and unsexy. — Women should be encouraged to live how they want, instead of being kept small under monogamy . This is something I see people within the cuckold community embracing in a big way, but which I feel we should all embrace. These ideas around women and monogamy and how women want…

When even the most self-aware people have a big kinky blind spot! — “Is this what your ex meant when she called you a sexual deviant?” I found myself asking, “that you get off on hot girls rejecting you, humiliating you, reminding you of how much of a loser you are?” You would think I was in the middle of a humiliatrix session…

The Best Dommes Use Empathy Differently — Last week I wrote a note to a couple of people who have favorited me on NiteFlirt. I explained that due to my commitments with some puppies I am currently fostering I might not be available for phone calls at my usual times, yet will still endeavor to be available…