I could ask the same thing to you.
One Tongue Johnny
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Did you miss the part about the only person who’s comfort level is important is the child’s? Because you have no experience with trans kids (and that you would equate their treatment with pedophilia is disgusting), you actually have no idea what you are talking about.

As for parents who choose to ignore their children or, worse, negate them, yes, I do believe they are uncaring to a point. But that is my opinion on the matter. I wish more parents were open enough to who their children are, and not just LGBT kids, but all kids who often resort to self-harm or harmful rebellion because they are repressed by some measure at home.

As a parent, I have always spoken with my children as if they are intelligent beings who can actively engage with the choices made in and about their lives. I don’t assume I somehow know better about how they feel or who they are because “they are children”. I am a partner in their lives and I hope I can give them enough guidance that they’ll make their best choices and as they have grown older, I have allowed them the opportunity to fail and then discussed both the successes and failures to help them discover how their choices shaped those outcomes.

I’ve worked with a lot of kids over the years and have seen the effects of different parenting styles, both for good and ill. More often than not, parents who communicate with their kids and actively listen to them, love them for whomever they are, and respect their voices have happier, healthier children than those who believe that kids have no voice in their lives.

Oh, and I’m not sure why you made a comment about my life and my comfort level. The only thing I am uncomfortable with is people who have no rational stake or voice in the conversation telling those who do about their discomfort. Many cishet folks are uncomfortable with trans as a baseline of their existence. Your initial comment was a lovely bit of trolling as you expressed solidarity with the original author before telling her she was wrong about how she is raising her daughter. It’s a very typical comment and belies a rather typical transphobia which is most often aimed at the idea of children knowing that they are trans. It typically makes people uncomfortable.

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