How to find yourself

How do you find yourself? I mean, it can’t be too difficult- you’ve lived in your own body for as long as you can remember (unless you’re a shapeshifter of sort or some kind of demon akin to possession – then that’s really quite impressive and you keep doing you.)

But I feel like I’ve figured it out, bold words I know, through 5 (!) fairly simple and straight forward ways.

1) Look around you- no, I mean really look

Are you happy with the people in your life? The relationships you have with them? How about your job? Does it bring you a sense of fulfilment every day, do you love it so much that sometimes you’re disappointed when it’s time to get home? (If so, that’s amazing- but also slightly concerning- work is work reader.) If your gut instinct isn’t a definite ‘YES!’ then why are you wasting your time? Get up, find your passion and get going- who’s stopping you? (If there is someone stopping you, drop-kick them in the face, or ask them to move- your call.)

2) Develop your soul

Sounds hard right? Let me clarify through a Kurt Vonnegut quote.

“Practice any art, music, singing, dancing, acting, drawing, painting, sculpting, poetry, fiction, essays, reportage, no matter how well or badly, not to get money and fame, but to experience becoming, to find out what’s inside you, to make your soul grow,”

Pretty self explanatory- the thing is, you don’t need to be the best at something – but understand how you do it and simply enjoying the fact that your creating something is pure magic. Learn some tricks.

3) Optimism is key

Ever read ‘The Secret’ by Rhonda Byrne? If not it’s based on a simple idea- the secret is the Law of Attraction. You invite what you think of, whether it be good or bad. Hold on to your dreams, goals and aspirations like a mantra in your head- picture it, demand it and work to it and the universe will give it to you. Don’t believe me? Ever had a bad thing happen at the start of the day, and due to your disgruntlement found that the rest of the day has just been horrendous ? Attract what you want- fill your head with thoughts of what you wish to achieve, not what you regret happened and watch yourself create wonders.

4) Cut the puppeteers strings, let yourself breathe

Ever been head nodding to an amazing song or maybe humming under your breath, only to stop when you feel like someone else has noticed? Stop doing that. If your favourite song comes on- dance to it, even if you’re in the middle of the vegetable isle between your elderly neighbour and that attractive woman/man you noticed when you walked in. Because the truth is nobody cares. Nobody is looking at you thinking “what a weirdo,”- and if they are- why do YOU care? You’ll probably never see them again anyway, and if they’re so bothered they can remove themselves from your presence.

But really nobody give a flying, single, teensy weensy damn that your jamming to a dope song, they probably want to join in.

5) Finally, be yourself

I can give you this extremely subjective list of how you can find yourself and be happy, but how can you do that if you feel like you’re forcing yourself to be something you’re not.

Please, don’t be a sheep, if you disagree with something voice your opinion, if you don’t want to go to that party don’t go and if you feel like you don’t want to go to work that day, take it off. You’re allowed to rest, you’re allowed to have opinions, be free, try new things, meet new people and fall completely in love with yourself.

And remember, if someone stands in your way, I really mean it when I say drop kick them- but do it when nobody’s watching and deny it profusely when they report you, say something about having a really bad back or say you’ll “speak to their manager,” it works in restaurants so why not?

I hope this helps! Best wishes for your life and thank you for reading!


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