Annoying Questions People Ask Stay-At-Home Moms
And what you should ask instead
I’m a stay-at-home mom with 2 kids — a 2-month-old and a 2-year-old. I’m 27 years old this year and I live in the sunny state of Singapore.
I quit my job in social services in 2019 when I was about to give birth to my eldest and decided to stay at home full-time to raise him.
Ever since other people found out I was a housewife, most were visibly surprised because, in my country, our career is what defines us. That’s the mindset of the majority of people here. So naturally, they value working mothers more than stay-at-home mothers.
No matter young or old, every time people are talking about me being a stay-at-home mom, I can judge by their expressions that they are totally judging me for it, that they look down on me for choosing to stay home and not work — especially since I have a university degree. Even if it’s my family, friends, aunts, uncles, cousins, or distant relatives, most of them don’t support my decision.
So over the past 2 years, I’ve gotten my fair share of condescending looks and annoying questions. I get that most of them are well-meaning and not intended to be offensive, but when you’re already biased with your own preconceived notions of someone, sometimes questions you ask may come off more…
