Pretending to be an extrovert when you’re clearly not !!
In a society that often glorifies extroverted traits — such as sociability, assertiveness, and the ability to engage in social situations easily — introverts may feel pressured to conform to these norms. The expectation to exhibit extroverted behaviours can be particularly challenging for introverted individuals, leading them to navigate a fine line between authenticity and societal expectations.
From an early age, we recognize the power of having an extroverted personality. In childhood, we notice that smiley, talkative children are favoured. As teens, our hormones beg us to try on a more attention-grabbing personality. People with high extroversion tend to relate well to others and are often well-liked in their teams and offices. They form quick and easy friendships, and their outgoing nature leads to effective group work. So we learn that to be popular and attractive, you have to be an extrovert (Smile please!!). Or at least act like an extrovert.
There are times when acting like an extrovert can help us be more effective. I’m not suggesting that’s the way it should be. In a perfect world, we could all be fully authentic and just as effective. I am suggesting that that’s the way it is.
Picture this: you, armed with a dazzling smile, engaging in small talk like a pro while your introverted soul is quietly planning its escape route to a cosy blanket fort. It’s like starring in a never-ending improve show titled “Faking It: The Extrovert Edition.” And the science called it like “Pseudo Extrovert”.
A pseudo-extrovert is an introvert pretending to be an extrovert. It helps us fit into a culture that favours charisma over character. It allows us to avoid being labelled as shy, anti-social and most importantly weird. It is a swipe card into every place where the “extrovert ideal” prevails.
It’s a bit like playing a character in a sitcom — cue the laugh track as you navigate the wild world of extroversion with your best fake-it-till-you-make-it smile. You’re chatting, laughing, and making your best impression of someone who loves group hangouts as much as a cat loves a bath. ( Congratulations! You have a good career in acting, lol).
However, it’s essential to recognize that there’s a difference between adaptation and total pretence. Introverts might adapt to social situations by stepping out of their comfort zones without entirely forsaking their true selves. This adaptation can be a valuable skill, allowing introverts to navigate social scenarios effectively while still honouring their need for solitude and introspection.
The pressure to conform to societal norms often arises from a misunderstanding or undervaluation of introverted qualities. Introversion is not a flaw but a unique temperament characterized by traits such as deep thinking, keen observation, creativity, and strong one-on-one connections. Society benefits from the thoughtful contributions and introspective nature of introverts, yet these traits are sometimes overshadowed or misunderstood in a culture that glorifies extroversion.
Acceptance and self-awareness play pivotal roles in navigating this dynamic. Embracing one’s introverted nature while acknowledging the need for adaptation can foster a more genuine approach to social interactions. Setting boundaries, prioritizing self-care, and honouring personal preferences are crucial steps in maintaining authenticity while occasionally navigating as an extrovert.
It’s equally important for society to recognize and appreciate the spectrum of personalities. Creating inclusive environments that celebrate both introverted and extroverted traits fosters diversity and allows individuals to contribute authentically without feeling the need to constantly pretend to be someone they are not.
Adapting without losing their introverted sparkle is like attending a costume party in a disguise you can’t wait to take off. Introverts juggle between fitting in and mentally planning their grand escape to a solo dance party in their pyjamas.
But here’s the punchline: when they bid adieu to the extravaganza, it’s not just a farewell; it’s an epic mic drop moment. Shedding the extrovert facade is like a superhero revealing their true identity — cue the dramatic cape unfurling as they embrace their inner sanctum of peace and Netflix.
Introverts thrive in the sanctuary of their minds, where solitude isn’t loneliness but a retreat into a universe brimming with creativity, introspection, and the kind of depth that rivals the Mariana Trench. In a world that screams for constant noise, introverts are the symphony of thoughtful pauses, the dance of nuanced emotions, and the quiet brilliance that speaks volumes without saying a word.
So here’s to the introverts putting on their extrovert capes — may your performances be Oscar-worthy, your exits graceful, and your return to introverted bliss feel like winning a gold medal in the Social Olympics!
