Value has a value only if its value is valued.

When we were in school we always fantasized the fancy life of college going students. No uniforms, no compulsory attendance, bunking classes and all imaginable frolic and fun. When we came to college we fantasized of a luxury life with a long black sedane parked outside our house, flat in a posh apartment, dinners at fancy restaurants, a handsome boyfriend or a stunning girlfriend and so on….
 But did life really turn out that way. Did we accomplish our dreams? Did we get all that we always wanted? Or is even life the way we wanted to lead?
 We have become so busy with our work and workplace that we have stopped thinking or even looking at the life beyond it.
 With the increase in competition at work the level of stress in our life has also increased. We are involved in a rat race of crushing the other one down and stepping up.
 In fact, occupational stress has been defined as a “global epidemic” by the United Nations’ International Labor Organization.
 One could be stressed because of various factors at workplace:
 ?A demanding boss
 ?variations in work hours or conditions
 ?changes in financial status
 ?business readjustments
 ?altered responsibilities
 ? a switch to a different line of work etc etc.
 ?Appraisal time etc etc
 But it isn’t just strain at workplace which makes our life stressful.
 The incapability to maintain a balance between both professional and personal front increases the level of dissatisfaction in our lives. We feel sandwiched between ever increasing competition at workplace and never ending demands at home. Both require time and we have none to spare. As a result of which we end up being unfair, unsatisfied and stressed.
 Modern life is full of hassles, deadlines, frustrations, and demands. For many people, stress is so commonplace that it has become a way of life. Stress isn’t always bad. In small doses, it can help you perform under pressure and motivate you to do your best. But when you’re constantly running in emergency mode, your mind and body pay the price.
 If you frequently find yourself feeling frazzled and overwhelmed, it’s time to take action to bring your nervous system back into balance. You can protect yourself by learning how to recognize the signs and symptoms of stress and taking steps to reduce its harmful effects.
 Stress can take a toll over your mind body and even your social equation.
 ?hair loss
 ?heart disease
 ?obsessive-compulsive or anxiety disorder
 The question now is how to distress yourself and cope up with the ever demanding life.
 The key to this is to prioritize the various events things and people in your life.
 Work at times can wait but relationships don’t so it becomes really important to know what needs you where and when.
 ?Spending quality time with your loved ones esp children
 ?Practising yoga meditation and workout techniques
 ?Getting up early and going for a morning walk. This will keep you fresh and distressed throughout the day.
 ?Going for a vacation atleast once in a year.
 Hope you find your answer in this speech of Chetan Bhagat, which he gave in IIM-A
 “Don’t just have career or academic goals. Set goals to give you a balanced,successful life.
 I use the word balanced before successful. Balanced means ensuring your health, relationships, mental peace are all in good order. There is no point of getting a promotion on the day of your breakup.
 There is no fun in driving a car if your back hurts.
 Shopping is not enjoyable if your mind is full of tensions.
 Life is one of those races in nursery school where you have to run with a marble in a spoon kept in your mouth. If the marble falls, there is no point coming first.
 Same is with life where health and relationships are the marble. Your striving is only worth it if there is harmony in your life.
 Else, you may achieve the success, but this spark, this feeling of being excited and alive,will start to die.
 One thing about nurturing the spark — don’t take life seriously.
 Life is not meant to be taken seriously, as we are really temporary here. We are like a pre-paid
 card with limited validity. If we are lucky, we may last another 50 years. And 50 years is just 2,500 weekends.
 Do we really need to get so worked up?
 It’s ok, bunk a few classes…
 Scoring low in couple of papers…
 Goof up a few interviews…
 Take leave from work…
 Fall in love…
 Little fights with your spouse…
 We are people, not programmed devices…!”
 “Don’t be serious, be sincere!”
 ‘Live today like there is no tomorrow…’
 Have a beautiful life…
 Life ofcourse isn’t just about meeting daily deadlines and working at the cost of your own health and the time your family needs form you.
 No one has a perfect life. You have to strike a balance between all things in your life.It is difficult and almost impossible to be present at all places at all times and please everyone
 For eg if you have to miss an important meeting for your family member’s birthday party then you may miss out on an important official event but you will gain the company of people who love you unconditionally. On the other hand if you attend the meeting you are sure to accomplish something at work but lose the time and affection of your family.
 It finally is up to you to decide what is more important for you.
 When the decision is yours and not forced whatever option you choose you are not stressed but satisfied at the end of the day.

Someone rightly said :
 “Imagine life as a game in which you are juggling some five balls in the air. You name them — work, family, health, Friends and spirit and you’re keeping all of these in the Air.
 You will soon understand that work is a rubber ball. If you drop it, it will bounce back.
But the other four Balls — Family, Health, Friends and Spirit — are made of glass. If you drop one of these; they will be irrevocably scuffed, marked, nicked, damaged or even shattered. They will never be the same. You must understand that and strive for it.”
 Work efficiently during office hrs and leave on time.Give the required time to your family friends and take proper rest.
 Remember, Value has a value only if its value is valued.

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